The Happiness Compass: What If Joy Is Trying to Tell You Something?

Exploring the idea that happiness is a compass that points us in the right direction.

We’ve all heard the old saying from the 1960s:

“If it feels good, do it.”

Unfortunately, our culture often teaches the exact opposite.

Work a job you hate because it’s practical.

Stay in a relationship that’s gone stale because it’s your duty.

Ignore your dreams because they’re unrealistic.

Somewhere along the way, many of us begin wearing our unhappiness like a badge of honor, as though misery proves we’re responsible adults.

But what if we’ve misunderstood happiness?

What if it isn’t a luxury?

What if it’s a compass?

Happiness Isn’t Random

One of the central ideas in my book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, is that happiness isn’t merely an emotion that comes and goes.

It’s directional.

It points.

When we’re moving toward the life we’re meant to live, something inside us quietly says:

“Yes…this is the way.”

Likewise, when we drift away from our authentic nature, life begins to feel heavy, flat, and strangely empty.

Our emotions aren’t simply fluctuations. They’re messages that point us in the right direction.

The Simplest Question

Perhaps the most radical question we can ask ourselves isn’t:

“How much money am I making?”

Or…

“What will other people think?”

It’s simply this:

Am I happy here?

If the honest answer is no, don’t treat it as a failure. Treat it as information.

Your inner compass is trying to get your attention.

Isn’t That Just Hedonism?

Whenever people talk about following happiness, someone inevitably objects:

“That sounds selfish.”

Or…

“Life isn’t supposed to be fun all the time.”

I agree. This isn’t about chasing pleasure.

There’s a profound difference between pleasure and fulfillment.

Pleasure asks:

“What feels good right now?”

Fulfillment asks:

“What kind of joy helps me become more fully myself?”

Real happiness isn’t the endless pursuit of dopamine. It’s the quiet satisfaction that comes from living in harmony with your deepest nature.

Happiness Is a Side Effect of Truth

One of the biggest misconceptions in our culture is that happiness comes from accumulating enough “stuff.”

More money.

A bigger house.

A nicer car.

More followers.

Those things may be enjoyable. But they’re not necessarily meaningful.

Real happiness comes from something much deeper.

It appears when we’re living with integrity.

When our actions reflect who we really are.

When we’re doing the work we came here to do—even if that work is difficult.

Happiness isn’t the goal.

It’s the glow that appears when we’re moving in the right direction.

Entering the Flow

Psychologists call it flow.

The Taoists simply speak of being in harmony with the Tao.

Athletes call it being in the zone.

Whatever name we give it, most of us have experienced those rare moments when intention and action become one.  When life seems to go perfectly.

Time disappears.

Energy rises.

Life feels strangely enchanted.

Synchronicities seem to increase.

Everything flows naturally.

To me, this is the Happiness Compass operating at full strength. The needle of the compass isn’t spinning in circles anymore – it’s pointing solidly in one direction.

Why We Lose Our Way

The tragedy is that most of us weren’t taught to trust this inner guidance.

We were taught to obey.

To fit in. To be practical. To put duty ahead of authenticity.

Eventually the compass is still there…

But it’s buried beneath expectations, obligations, financial worries, and the opinions of other people.

Eventually, we may not even remember what genuine happiness feels like, because we’ve forgotten who we truly are.

How the Tarot Can Help

This is one of the reasons I love working with the Tarot.

The cards don’t tell us who we’re supposed to become. They remind us who we already are. They gently reveal where we’ve ignored our intuition, overridden our happiness, or wandered away from our authentic path.

The cards are about helping us realign with ourselves and answer that basic question:  Am I happy? If the answer is no, they tell us why.

Perhaps happiness isn’t something we have to chase.  Perhaps it’s simply something that we need to remember.

Adapted from Chapter Six of my new book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment: Using the Cards to Remember Who You Are, which explores how the Tarot can become a practical compass for discovering your authentic path and living with greater joy, purpose, and synchronicity.



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Finding Ourselves on the Map

Using the Tarot to Predict the Present

Why One-Size-Fits-All Spirituality Doesn’t Work

If you’ve spent any time in the self-help world, you’ve probably noticed a recurring theme:

Someone discovers a technique that changes their life.

Then they write a book, launch a podcast, create an online course, and explain why everyone else should do exactly the same thing.

The assumption is simple:

If it worked for me, it should work for everyone.

Unfortunately, human beings don’t work that way.

When it comes to following a spiritual path, one size does not fit all.

The Jewel Hidden Beneath the Rock

Buddhist teachers sometimes use a beautiful metaphor.

They tell us that each of us possesses a precious jewel hidden beneath a layer of gray rock.

That jewel is our true nature.

Our wisdom.

Our compassion.

Our spiritual essence.

The goal of the spiritual path isn’t to create the jewel. It’s already there.

The goal is to uncover it.

This is an important distinction.

Many of us approach spirituality as though we’re trying to become something we are not. We’re trying to become enlightened, worthy, lovable, wise, or whole. But what if our deeper nature already possesses those qualities?

What if awakening isn’t something that gets added to us?

What if it’s something that gets revealed?

Some Rocks Are Thicker Than Others

Of course, if life were that simple, we’d all be enlightened by Tuesday.

The challenge is that the jewel is often buried beneath layers of conditioning.

Those layers can include:

  • Fear
  • Trauma
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Cultural conditioning
  • Prejudice
  • Old wounds
  • False ideas about who we are

Some people arrive carrying a little rock.

Others arrive carrying a boulder.

But we’re all engaged in the same process. We’re all uncovering the same jewel.

Don’t Compare Your Journey

One of my favorite passages from the Desiderata reminds us:

“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

That’s particularly true on the spiritual path.

Some people seem naturally compassionate. Some seem deeply intuitive. Others appear to have spent decades doing inner work.

Meanwhile, some of us are just figuring out which end of the shovel to hold.

And that’s okay.

The important thing is to remember that we’re all on the same continuum.

Some people have uncovered more of the jewel.

Some are just beginning.

Neither position makes anyone better or worse.

The Spiritual GPS

This brings me to one of my favorite metaphors, borrowed from Mike Dooley.

He compares the spiritual journey to a GPS.

It’s a wonderful image.

Suppose you want to drive from Phoenix to Los Angeles.

The GPS can absolutely help you get there.

But first it needs one crucial piece of information:

Where are you now?

Without that information, the GPS is useless. It cannot guide you from Phoenix to Los Angeles if it doesn’t know you’re in Phoenix.

The same thing is true spiritually.

Before we can determine where we’re going, we need to understand where we are.

And that’s precisely where many spiritual systems fall apart.

They offer directions without first helping us identify our current location.

The Real Genius of the Tarot

Most people think the Tarot’s greatest strength is predicting the future.

I disagree.

I believe the real genius of the Tarot lies in its ability to describe the present.

A good Tarot reading reveals:

  • Where you are right now
  • What forces are influencing you
  • What patterns are helping you
  • What patterns are holding you back
  • What lessons are trying to emerge

In other words, it functions as a spiritual GPS.

Before it tells you where you’re headed, it tells you where you’re standing.

And that’s incredibly valuable information.

Because once you know where you are, the next step becomes much easier to see.

The Paradox of Destiny

One of the central ideas in Tarot and the Art of Alignment is that destiny is often misunderstood.

Most people imagine destiny as something waiting for them somewhere in the future.

A distant goal.

A future achievement.

A place they haven’t reached yet.

But what if destiny isn’t waiting out there somewhere?

What if it’s already here?

What if the path is beneath your feet right now?

The future emerges from the interaction between the present and the past.

Every choice.

Every belief.

Every action.

Every moment.

The Tarot helps us see those forces at work.

It shows us how the energies of the present moment are combining to create the next moment.

In that sense, the cards don’t simply predict the future.

They reveal the path.

Finding Your Own Way

This is why I don’t believe there is a single spiritual method that works for everyone.

Different people need different tools.

Different lessons.

Different experiences.

The first step is not finding the perfect technique.

The first step is discovering where you are.

Once you know that, the path forward becomes much easier to navigate.

Like any GPS, the Tarot begins with a simple question:

“You are here.”

And from that point, the journey can begin.

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Navigating the Ocean of Self-Help

Using the Tarot to become your own guru.

Why We Don’t Need Another Guru

The Buddha once taught that certain conditions are necessary for enlightenment:

  • Being born human
  • The appearance of a Buddha or enlightened teacher
  • A way for those teachings to reach human beings
  • People capable of understanding and applying the teachings

Today, I’d like to focus on that third point: How do the teachings reach us?

And perhaps more importantly:

How do we know which teachings are right for us?

From Ancient Villages to Information Overload

In the Buddha’s day, getting a spiritual message out into the world was no small task.

There were no emails, podcasts, YouTube channels, online courses, or social media platforms.

The Buddha spent roughly forty-five years walking from village to village, teaching anyone who was willing to listen. Basically, walking up to strangers and saying, “Hey, I’ve got an idea . . .”

Imagine that.

No marketing department. No sales funnel. No premium membership package.

Just a teacher sharing what he had discovered.

Fast forward twenty-five centuries and we’ve arrived at the opposite problem.

When I wake up in the morning, my inbox is usually full of messages promising to transform my life, align my energy, unlock hidden potential, activate forgotten abilities, and teach me the secret to happiness, wealth, abundance, success, enlightenment, or all of the above.

The challenge is no longer finding information.

The challenge is sorting through it.

Never before in human history have so many spiritual teachings, philosophies, techniques, and self-help systems been available to so many people.

And yet many of us remain confused about what actually works.

The Billion-Dollar Search for Happiness

The self-help industry generates tens of billions of dollars each year.

That’s a big chunk of enlightenment.

Most programs follow a familiar pattern:

  • I have achieved success.
  • You have not.
  • I have a special technique, secret, or system.
  • Pay me, and I’ll teach it to you.

To be fair, some of these teachers are sincere and genuinely helpful.

Many people have benefited from books, courses, seminars, and retreats.

But there is also a tendency to assume that one technique should work for everyone.

What if that assumption is wrong? What if there is no universal formula? What if different people require different paths?

Satisfaction Not Guaranteed

One thing I’ve noticed over the years is that self-help programs rarely come with guarantees.

Suppose someone is struggling financially and spends thousands of dollars attending an exclusive retreat in Costa Rica. They spend a week sipping organic hot chocolate, munching down tofu rice cakes, and opening their heart chakra.

At the end of the experience, they may feel inspired, motivated, and hopeful. But what if nothing really changed, other than they have a better tan and a lighter wallet?

What if their life remains exactly the same six months later?

The explanation is often that they didn’t practice enough, believe enough, surrender enough, visualize enough, or raise their vibration enough.

In other words, if MY method doesn’t work, it’s YOUR fault.

Let’s face it: if one teacher could make everyone happy, rich and successful, we’d all be going to that teacher and we’d all be rich.

Instead, the emails continue to pile up in our in-boxes.

Where the Tarot Is Different

This is where my book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, takes a different arapproach.

The central idea is surprisingly simple:

The wisdom we seek is not somewhere outside of us.

It is already within us.

The challenge is learning how to access it.

The Tarot provides a remarkably effective way to do exactly that.

Rather than telling us what to think, the cards help us listen.

Rather than asking us to surrender our authority to a teacher, they encourage us to develop trust in our own inner knowing.

Rather than offering one answer for everyone, they reveal the unique lessons, challenges, and opportunities present in each individual’s life.

In this model, the Tarot is not a fortune-telling device.

It is a mirror.

A guide.

A conversation with the deeper parts of ourselves.

Your Own Inner Teacher

One of the things I appreciate most about the Tarot is its simplicity.

A Tarot deck costs roughly twenty-five to thirty bucks.

Once you have it, the conversation can begin.

There are no monthly subscription fees. No expensive retreats. No advanced certification programs. No endless upselling.

Just you, the cards, and the wisdom waiting beneath the noise of everyday life.

The goal is not to find another guru.

The goal is to discover the teacher that has been quietly waiting within you all along.

And in my experience, the Tarot is one of the most powerful keys to that door.

Why Your Visualizations Aren’t Working (And How the Tarot Can Help)

Using the Tarot to boost your visualizations and manifestations.

One of the strangest things about visualization and manifestation is that almost everyone who practices it has seen it work at least once.

A check arrives unexpectedly in the mail.

A new opportunity appears out of nowhere.

A problem that seemed impossible to solve suddenly resolves itself.

Most of us who have explored manifestation have had moments like that. The experience is so striking that we walk away convinced that there really is something to it.

The problem is that it often seems wildly inconsistent.

It’s as if we were handed a magic wand that only works on Tuesdays.

Sometimes it works beautifully.

Sometimes nothing happens at all.

So what’s going on?

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THE PROBLEM MAY NOT BE THE UNIVERSE

Most manifestation teachings assume that if something isn’t showing up in our lives, we simply aren’t visualizing hard enough, affirming often enough, or maintaining a high enough vibration.

Sometimes that’s true.

But sometimes the problem lies somewhere else entirely.

Sometimes we’re trying to manifest something that we don’t actually want.

That sounds strange, but think about it for a moment.

We’re constantly being told what we should want.

More money.

A bigger house.

A more prestigious career.

A newer car.

A better relationship.

Society hands us a ready-made list of desires and then encourages us to spend our lives pursuing them.

But what if those desires aren’t really ours?

Suppose your deepest dream is to live a quiet, peaceful life creating art, writing books, tending a garden, or herding goats in the mountains.

Trying to manifest a million-dollar corporate empire might actually move you farther away from what you truly want.

One part of you is saying:

“I want more money.”

Another part is saying:

“I want simplicity, freedom, and peace.”

The messages conflict.

And when they conflict, the energy behind them weakens.

THE HIDDEN VOICE OF THE SUBCONSCIOUS

There’s another reason manifestation sometimes fails.

Many of our deepest beliefs operate below conscious awareness.

We may consciously desire wealth while secretly believing that wealthy people are selfish or corrupt. So why would we want to be one?

We may desire a loving relationship while carrying a deep conviction that we are unworthy of love.

We may want success while simultaneously fearing attention, criticism, or failure.

In those situations, our conscious intentions and our subconscious beliefs are pulling in opposite directions.

No amount of affirmations can completely overcome a belief that remains hidden and unexamined.

THE TEN PERCENT PRINCIPLE

One idea that has always fascinated me is what I call the Ten Percent Principle.

Rather than focusing on the times manifestation didn’t work, focus on the times it did.

If your visualization works only ten percent of the time, that’s still astonishing.

That’s magic.

That’s making something appear out of nothing, simply using the power of your mind and heart.

So how do we increase that success rate from 10% to 50%?  How do we start to live the magic that we know is there?

HOW THE TAROT CAN HELP

This is where the Tarot becomes so valuable.

Most manifestation techniques begin with a conscious desire.

“I want more money.”

“I want a new relationship.”

“I want a better job.”

The Tarot approaches the problem from the opposite direction.

Because Tarot communicates through symbols, images, and archetypes, it speaks directly to the subconscious mind. It bypasses many of the stories, assumptions, and social programming that shape our everyday thinking.

The cards often reveal things we weren’t expecting to hear.

Sometimes they show us hidden fears.

Sometimes they reveal limiting beliefs.

And sometimes they show us that the thing we’re trying to manifest isn’t what we really want at all.

The Tarot doesn’t simply ask:

“What do you want?”

It asks:

“What does your soul want?”

THE SOUL SPREAD

One of the central ideas in my new book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, is a reading method I call the Soul Spread.

Rather than focusing on future events, the Soul Spread is designed to uncover your deeper purpose, natural gifts, hidden challenges, and the path that brings the greatest sense of meaning and fulfillment.

In other words, it helps answer a question that most manifestation systems never ask:

“Am I trying to create a life that is actually mine?”

When our conscious goals and our deeper purpose come into alignment, something remarkable often happens.

The struggle begins to ease.

Synchronicities increase.

Opportunities appear.

The path feels more natural.

It’s as though life itself begins cooperating with us.

Perhaps the secret isn’t learning how to force the universe to give us what we want.

Perhaps the secret is discovering what we truly want in the first place.

And that’s a journey the Tarot is uniquely qualified to help us make.

Tarot and the Art of Alignment is now available as both a Kindle edition and a downloadable PDF. If you’ve ever wondered why your visualizations seem inconsistent—or how to uncover the deeper desires beneath your conscious goals—the book offers a practical framework for using the Tarot as a tool for alignment, purpose, and personal transformation.

Why Are We Here? Bridey Murphy, Reincarnation, and the Search for Purpose

Exploring past life memories and looking for meaning with the Tarot.

In 1956, a hugely controversial book called The Search for Bridey Murphy became a national sensation.

The book documented a series of hypnotic regressions conducted by a Colorado businessman named Morey Bernstein. His subject, Virginia Tighe, was initially regressed to childhood memories. Instead, she began describing what appeared to be a previous life in nineteenth-century Ireland.

According to the story, Virginia remembered being a young woman named Bridey Murphy who had lived in County Cork. She described places, customs, people, and events in remarkable detail.

The reaction was immediate.

Some people were fascinated.

Some were deeply moved.

Some were furious.

Others thought the whole thing was ridiculous.

The book became a bestseller. It was turned into a movie. Comedians did Bridey Murphy jokes. People threw Bridey Murphy-themed parties. Children even dressed up as Bridey Murphy for Halloween.

Imagine that for a moment.

Millions of Americans were suddenly debating whether reincarnation might actually be real.

That would be surprising today.

In the buttoned-down 1950s, it was astonishing.

After all, more than ninety percent of Americans then identified as church-going Christians. Traditional Christian theology leaves very little room for reincarnation. From the perspective of many ministers and priests, the idea was outright heresy.

Naturally, there were efforts to debunk the claims, expose errors, and prove that the entire thing was a misunderstanding or a fraud. Eventually the public moved on.

But I’ve always been fascinated by one aspect of the story.

Why did so many people take it seriously in the first place?

Why didn’t they simply dismiss it out of hand?

The Strange Familiarity of Past-Life Memories

Today, surveys suggest that roughly a third of Americans believe in reincarnation. Among many New Age and metaphysical communities, the idea is simply taken for granted.

Most of us, however, don’t have detailed memories like Virginia Tighe supposedly did.

We don’t remember specific addresses.

We don’t remember the names of shopkeepers.

We don’t remember exact dates.

What many people do experience are odd fragments.

Half-memories.

Dreams.

Emotions that seem to belong to someone else and yet somehow feel intimately familiar.

Over the years I’ve spoken with dozens of people who have reported experiences like this.

One person remembered being a stone carver in ancient Egypt. What struck him most wasn’t some grand spiritual revelation. It was the memory of being exhausted, sweaty, and desperately in need of a bath.

Another remembered being a poet during the American Revolution. His strongest impression wasn’t literary genius. It was embarrassment over being a terrible poet.

Yet another remembered escaping from a Mississippi jail during the 1930s, stealing a car, and taking a brief joyride before being captured.

None of these people could provide names, dates, or evidence that would satisfy a historian.

Yet they all said the same thing.

The memories felt absolutely real.

In some ways, I find these stories more convincing than tales of being Cleopatra or Joan of Arc. Most people don’t remember being kings and queens.

If reincarnation is real, the overwhelming majority of us probably spent most of our lives being ordinary people.

Which leads to a much more interesting question.

Why Would We Keep Coming Back?

Let’s suppose, for the sake of argument, that reincarnation is real.

Why are we doing this?

Why would a soul return over and over again?

The idea that we’re reincarnating merely to carve stones, write bad poetry, or heist a car seems a little absurd.

Most of us instinctively feel that there must be more to it than that. We sense that there must be a purpose behind the process.

Perhaps we’re here to learn.

Perhaps we’re here to grow.

Perhaps we’re here to develop qualities that cannot be learned anywhere else.

Perhaps we’re here to become something.

What’s fascinating is that we often ask these questions about our past lives while completely ignoring them in our current one.

We look at a supposed lifetime in ancient Egypt and ask:

“What lesson was I learning?”

“What was the purpose of that incarnation?”

“What was I supposed to become?”

Yet many of us live our present lives without ever asking the same questions.

We get up. Go to work. Pay bills. Consume several million calories. Accumulate possessions. Grow older.

And eventually die.

Then we wonder why life sometimes feels strangely empty.

Perhaps the real mystery isn’t whether we’ve lived before.

Perhaps the real mystery is why we’re here now.

Understanding the “Why”

This is one of the questions that led me to develop the ideas explored in Tarot and the Art of Alignment.

What if the purpose of Tarot isn’t merely to predict future events?

What if the cards can help us discover why we came here in the first place?

Most Tarot readings focus on questions such as:

“Will I get the job?”

“Will this relationship work out?”

“What should I expect next week?”

Those are perfectly valid questions.

But there may be a deeper question hiding beneath all of them.

“What am I here to become?”

In my own work, I’ve found that Tarot can be an extraordinary tool for exploring that question.

The cards often reveal recurring themes, gifts, challenges, and lessons that seem to run through an entire lifetime.

They can help us recognize where we’re in alignment with our deeper purpose—and where we’ve drifted away from it.

In the coming weeks, I’ll be writing more about the Soul Reading described in Tarot and the Art of Alignment, a Tarot spread specifically designed to explore these larger questions of purpose, destiny, and meaning.

Because whether reincarnation is real or not, one question remains:

Why are you here?

And that may be the most important question any of us will ever ask.

Tarot and the Two Kinds of Desire:  Filling the Hole and Expressing the Soul

Exploring the sources of true happiness.

One of the major themes in my new book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, is how to use the Tarot to create greater happiness and satisfaction in our lives.

But that raises an important question:

What do we really mean by happiness?

Most of us assume that all desires are the same.

We want more money.

We want a better relationship.

We want a bigger house.

We want status, recognition, and success.

But what if there are actually two very different kinds of desire?

And what if one of them leads to lasting fulfillment while the other keeps us trapped in an endless cycle of wanting?

Are We Really Happy?

Studies about happiness are fascinating because they sometimes seem to completely contradict one another.

On the one hand, surveys consistently show that most Americans report being satisfied with their lives. According to a 2024 study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control, the overwhelming majority of Americans describe themselves as satisfied or very satisfied.

That’s kind of astounding, isn’t it?

If that were the whole story, we might expect to step outside and find people skipping down the street singing, “Zip-a-Dee-Doo-Dah” and celebrating the sheer joy of being alive.

Yet another study found that 61% of Americans experience loneliness on a regular basis, with a substantial number reporting that they feel isolated much of the time.

So which is it?

Are we happy?

Or are we lonely?

Are our desires being fulfilled?

The answer, I believe, lies in understanding that there are two very different kinds of desire operating within us.

Desire #1: Filling the Hole

Wharton School senior fellow Matthew Killingsworth conducted research suggesting that money does, in fact, increase happiness.

At first glance, that seems to confirm the modern assumption that more money equals a better life.

And to a certain extent, that’s true. But . . . buried in that study is the fact that it takes a LOT of money to be happy all of the time. Billionaires are very happy campers – the rest of us, not so much. The statistics show that you have to be making at least $175,500 per year to crack into that money = happiness paradigm.

Over half of the people in the United States make less than $75,000 a year. So, quite literally, money is NOT going to buy them happiness.

The problem is that most of us unconsciously continue to believe that it will.

We begin to believe that happiness is always just one purchase away.

Maybe a new car will make us happy.

Maybe a larger house will make us happy.

Maybe the latest phone, computer, or gadget will finally make us feel successful and secure.

Sometimes these things do make us happy—for a little while. Then the novelty wears off. The new car becomes the old car. The new computer crashes. The bigger house develops problems.

And before long we’re looking for the next thing that will finally make us feel complete.

At its core, this desire is driven by a feeling of lack.

It whispers:

“You don’t have enough.”

And because you don’t have enough:

“You aren’t enough.”

This kind of desire attempts to fill an inner emptiness with outer possessions.

The problem is that the hole never stays filled for very long.

Desire #2: Expressing the Soul

There is a second kind of desire that stands in stark contrast to the first.

Rather than trying to fill an inner void, it seeks to express something that already exists within us.

Carl Jung called it individuation.

Abraham Maslow called it self-actualization.

The Buddhists speak of dharma.

Most people simply call it purpose or destiny.

This desire isn’t asking: “What can I get?” It’s asking: “Who am I meant to become?”

At some level, most of us sense that we are here for a reason. We feel drawn toward certain experiences, certain talents, certain ways of contributing to the world.

For one person, that calling may involve art. For another, healing. For another, teaching, parenting, writing, building, serving, or leading.

The details differ, but the underlying experience is the same. Something inside us wants to become fully expressed.

The tragedy is that many of us lose touch with that calling.

From childhood onward, we’re taught to fit in, conform, and follow the established path. Schools, institutions, social expectations, and sometimes even our own families encourage us to become what is expected rather than what is authentic.

Over time, we begin to forget the dreams that we felt so vividly as children. We lose sight of the deeper reason we came here. And then we wonder why life feels empty.

We don’t have meaning in our lives and so life feels meaning-less.

Alignment = Happiness

This second desire contains the secret of lasting happiness.

The more closely we align with our authentic purpose, the more alive we feel. The farther we drift from it, the more restless, dissatisfied, and disconnected we become.

This doesn’t mean life suddenly becomes easy (although it frequently does.) It means life becomes meaningful.

And meaning has a remarkable ability to sustain us even through difficulty.

This is where Tarot enters the picture.

Rather than using the cards exclusively to predict future events, we can use them as a mirror that reflects our deeper purpose.

We can ask:

* What am I here to learn?

* What gifts am I meant to develop?

* Where am I out of alignment?

* What is trying to emerge through me?

In Tarot and the Art of Alignment, I introduce a process called the Soul Reading, designed to help uncover those answers.

Once we begin to understand who we are and why we’re here, the Tarot becomes more than a tool for prediction.

It becomes a tool for alignment.

And alignment, more than money, possessions, status, or recognition, is where lasting happiness is found.

Tarot and the Art of Alignment: A New Way to Read the Cards

For years I’ve been fascinated by a simple question: What if Tarot isn’t primarily about predicting the future? That question eventually grew into my new book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment.

For years, I’ve been fascinated by a simple question:

What if Tarot isn’t primarily about predicting the future?

What if the cards are actually showing us where we’re aligned—or misaligned—with our deeper path?

That question eventually grew into my new book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment.

Of course, behind that question lies another one that human beings have been asking for thousands of years:

Why am I here?

We phrase it in many different ways:

* What is my purpose in life?

* Do I have some sort of destiny?

* Why did I incarnate in this place and time?

* Or, on particularly difficult days: What in the HELL is all of this about?

Philosophers, psychologists, and spiritual teachers have all recognized that human beings have a deep need for meaning in their lives. It isn’t enough to simply wake up, go to work, buy things, pursue pleasure, and repeat the process until our inevitable deaths.

We long for something more.

We need a sense of purpose. We need to feel that our lives matter, that our struggles and triumphs are part of a larger story. Without that sense of meaning, life can begin to feel exactly what the word suggests: meaningless.

Over time, it began to dawn on me that the answer to those questions might be found in the Tarot.

Most of us use the cards to ask questions about the future:

* What is my week going to be like?

* Should I take this job?

* Is this relationship headed somewhere meaningful?

* Am I making the right decision?

When we stop and think about it, that’s actually a remarkable process.

Whenever we lay out the cards, we operate from the assumption that we’re tapping into a source of wisdom greater than our ordinary awareness. Whether we call that source Spirit, the Universe, God/dess, Higher Self, Angels, Guides, or simply the deeper unconscious mind, we trust that the cards can reveal information we don’t consciously possess.

And if that greater source can offer guidance about a career decision, a relationship, or whether we’re headed in the right direction, then surely it can help us answer the most important question of all:

Why am I here?

That realization led me to begin experimenting with a different way of reading the cards.

Instead of asking the Tarot to predict what might happen next, I began asking it to reveal who I am, why I’m here, and whether my life is aligned with my deeper purpose.

I also began using the cards as an ongoing check-in system—a way of determining whether I was moving toward greater alignment or drifting away from it.

This book is the result.

Rather than teaching hundreds of card meanings to memorize, the book explores a different approach. It shows how Tarot can become a mirror that helps us recognize alignment, resistance, intuition, synchronicity, and purpose.

At its heart, Tarot and the Art of Alignment is about learning to see the cards as a conversation with the deeper self.

The Tarot has always been rich with symbols, archetypes, and spiritual lessons. Yet many readers become trapped in the endless task of memorizing meanings and predicting outcomes. This book shifts the focus from fortune-telling to self-discovery. The question is no longer, “What will happen to me?” but rather, “Who am I becoming?”

Through the practices and spreads presented in the book, you’ll learn how to identify the beliefs that keep you stuck, reconnect with your intuition, recognize meaningful patterns and synchronicities, and uncover the deeper purpose that has been quietly calling to you all along.

At the heart of the book is a model I call The Tarot Alignment Process.

The first step is Remembering the Call. This is the moment when we become conscious of our deep hunger for meaning and purpose. We stop drifting through life and begin to recognize that something within us is calling for a more authentic way of living.

The second step is Unveiling Conditioning. Here we examine the beliefs, fears, expectations, and assumptions that have caused us to forget who we really are. We explore the ways that family, culture, education, and society have shaped our identity—and often obscured our deeper truth.

The third step is Reclaiming Inner Knowing. Through Tarot and self-reflection, we begin to trust our own wisdom again. We learn to listen to the quiet voice within that knows why we came into this life and what we are here to contribute.

The fourth step is Entering Synchronicity and Flow. We discover how our emotions, life circumstances, and meaningful coincidences can serve as guides, helping us recognize when we are moving in harmony with our deeper purpose.

And finally, the fifth step is Embodying Destiny. Rather than seeking occasional moments of inspiration, we learn how to stay aligned over time, using the Tarot as an ongoing tool for guidance, self-correction, and growth.

Looking back, I realize that I’ve spent years exploring these themes through Tarot readings, blog posts, synchronicity, personal experience, and spiritual study. This book is my attempt to gather all of those threads together into a single framework.

Over the next several weeks, I’ll be exploring many of these ideas here on the blog, including alignment and resistance, synchronicity, the Soul Spread, and why difficult Tarot readings may not be bad news at all.

If those topics interest you, I hope you’ll join me for the journey.

Tarot and the Art of Alignment

The book is now available as an Amazon Kindle edition:

Tarot and the Art of Alignment – Kindle Edition

Or as a downloadable PDF edition:

Tarot and the Art of Alignment – Downloadable PDF Edition

Remember:

Tarot is not about predicting the future.

It’s about aligning with your true path.

The Tower Is About the Basement, Not the Top Floor

The freedom hidden in The Tower card – starting all over.

When we glance at The Tower card, our eyes naturally go to the most dramatic part of the image.

A mighty tower has been struck by lightning. Flames erupt from the windows. The occupants, hurled into the air by the force of the blast, are plunging toward a very unpleasant landing.

Yikes.

It’s one of the most feared cards in the Tarot. Whether it appears upright or reversed, The Tower usually signals upheaval, disruption, loss, or sudden change.

But here’s the thing:

The Tower isn’t really about the top of the tower.

It’s about the basement.

The Importance of Foundations

Like a Saturn return in astrology, The Tower destroys whatever is built on a weak foundation.

Notice that the lightning strike isn’t the whole story. Lightning hits buildings all the time. What turns a lightning strike into a catastrophe is the condition of the structure itself.

The real lesson of The Tower is that most of us build our lives on foundations we rarely examine.

Our assumptions.

Our beliefs.

Our fears.

Our relationships.

Our careers.

Our identities.

We construct elaborate towers on top of these foundations and then spend years assuming they’ll stand forever.

Until they don’t.

Eliphas Levi and the Wrong Turn

Part of the reason The Tower has such a grim reputation comes from an interpretation popularized by the nineteenth-century occultist Eliphas Levi.

Levi identified the card with the Tower of Babel from the Bible.

The problem is that the story doesn’t really fit.

The Tower of Babel wasn’t destroyed by lightning. According to the story, God punished its builders by confusing their languages so they could no longer communicate.

The deeper message of Babel is that humanity was punished for its pride. The builders reached too high, became too ambitious, and were struck down for their arrogance.

Once this idea attached itself to The Tower card, the interpretation began drifting toward a very Christian notion of guilt and punishment.

Something bad happened.

Therefore you must have done something wrong.

God, Karma, Fate, or the Universe is simply giving you what you deserve.

It’s a comforting theory because it suggests that bad things only happen for a reason.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t always work that way.

Just The Tarot, by Dan Adair – Available on Amazon

The “Shit Happens” Principle

One of the hardest truths to accept is that sometimes terrible things happen for no obvious reason.

A good person gets sick.

A devoted spouse is abandoned.

A careful driver gets hit by a drunk driver.

Someone loses their job, their savings, and their sense of security all within a few months.

When these things happen, we immediately begin searching for explanations.

What did they do wrong?

What lesson are they supposed to learn?

What hidden flaw attracted the disaster?

Sometimes there may be a lesson.

Sometimes there isn’t.

Sometimes shit just happens.

That’s not a very comforting answer, but it’s often a truthful one.

The Pendulum

The Kybalion offers a useful way of looking at this.

According to the Principle of Rhythm, life moves like a pendulum.

Good times are followed by difficult times.

Difficult times are followed by good times.

The pendulum swings one way and then the other.

There is nothing personal about it.

The tides come in and go out.

The moon waxes and wanes.

Seasons change.

Life moves in cycles.

The Tower often appears when we’ve forgotten that truth and begun acting as though our present circumstances are permanent.

The Gift Hidden Inside The Tower

As painful as The Tower can be, it contains an unexpected gift.

It reveals what isn’t working.

A loveless marriage ends.

A dead-end career collapses.

An identity built on appearances falls apart.

A belief system that no longer serves us is shattered.

At the time, these experiences can feel catastrophic.

Years later, many people look back and realize that The Tower didn’t destroy their lives.

It destroyed the illusion that their lives were built on solid ground.

And once the illusion is gone, something remarkable becomes possible.

Rebuilding.

That is the hidden blessing of The Tower.

Very few people willingly tear down their lives and start over.

The Tower does it for us.

Not because we are being punished.

Not because God is angry.

Not because the Universe is keeping score.

But because whatever was false can no longer support the weight placed upon it.

The Tower clears the ground.

What we build next is up to us.

As Kris Kristofferson famously wrote:

“Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose.”

Strange as it may sound, that’s the freedom The Tower offers.

Not the freedom to avoid change.

The freedom to begin again.

REVERSE ENGINEERING A BAD READING

Changing a negative reading to a positive reading by using the lesson that needs to be learned.

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If we read Tarot cards for long enough, we will eventually pull a bad reading. Sometimes it’s a really, really bad reading.  You know:  Death, The Tower, 10 of Swords, and maybe a few other horrible seeming cards thrown in.  

After all, everyone has ups and downs.  Everyone goes in and out of the light.  Bad things happen to good people and vice versa.

The completely natural reaction to that is to freak out and think, “Oh, I’m so screwed.”  And then we may batten down our psychological hatches, load our pockets full of protective crystals and charms, and go forth into the world, fully expecting to be hit by a bolt of lightning.

IT’S NOT CARVED IN STONE

A better approach is to remember that Tarot readings are never carved in stone.  They’re a snapshot of the present moment, a prediction of how things are going to turn out if they continue along the present course.

Yes, they are eerily reliable.  If the Tarot predicts that something is going to happen – good, bad, or neutral – it usually does.

But that’s primarily because we forget that we have free will and we can make choices.  By acknowledging what’s happening right now and getting to work on it, we can alter the outcome of those readings.  In a phrase, we can look at the problems that the Tarot is predicting and reverse engineer them so that they don’t happen.

HERE’S AN EXAMPLE

Let’s look at a simple three card reading.  The question of the reading is, “Where am I aligning with my life’s purpose?”

1 – Where does the energy flow most freely? – The Tower reversed.

2 – Where does the greatest resistance occur? – The Empress reversed.

3 – What lesson needs to be learned at this point? – The Three of Swords

Now, if we were to just look at that sequence of cards as they lay on the table, it’s not a very positive reading.  The Tower reversed warns of serious destruction.  The Empress reversed is a loss of abundance.  The Three of Swords is heartbreak.

If we were just reading this predictively, we’d say, “Okay, this person is going to get hit by something heavy, he’ll lose his abundance, and it will break his heart.”  

When we look at it symbolically, in the context of the actual reading, though, we see a far different message.

The energy is flowing most freely where the person is consciously dismantling false foundations and lies in his own life (The Tower, reversed.)  He’s unable to receive abundance because he can’t open to it (Empress reversed.). AND the reason that he can’t open to it is because his heart, his trust, has been seriously wounded in the past (Three of Swords.)

REVERSING IT

Now, as I said, none of this is carved in stone and all of this can be changed.  So, what does this person need to do to flip the reading to something more positive?

We look directly at the last card – what lesson needs to be learned – for guidance.  This person needs to heal his heart.  When he heals his heart, that will enable him to trust the world and receive the abundance that he deserves.  When he heals his heart and learns to trust the world, then the false foundation of The Tower reversed becomes a real foundation that’s based on love.

If we were to put in purely energetic terms, this person has been deeply wounded emotionally, resulting in his heart chakra being blocked.  His heart chakra being blocked has kept him from being able to receive abundance.  His inability to receive abundance has caused him to question the basis for his existence, which is the falling Tower.

CAUSE AND EFFECT

When we use this approach, we cease to look at a Tarot reading as if it’s just a prediction and we start to look at it as a puzzle that can be solved.  We don’t just see that bad things may be about to happen – we see WHY they’re about to happen.

And if we can change the WHY, we can change the HOW.

There are about a kajillion different Tarot spreads out there, but most of them will have a, “lesson card.”  That card may be called:

– what needs to be learned;

– hidden forces;

– causal factors;

– opposing forces, etc.

That’s the card that we want to focus in on when we’re trying to reverse engineer a bad reading.  We don’t want to take an attitude of, “Well, shit happens.”  We want to figure out why it’s happening and then reverse those forces with an opposite energy.

In the example above, the client had a broken heart (AKA, a blocked heart chakra) and so the solution was to bring love into his heart.  A simple Metta meditation, done every day, began to cultivate more compassion, understanding, and love.

The, “lesson,” will probably be different with each client, of course.  It may be that their issue is addiction (The Devil) or a need for more solitude (The Hermit) or a lack of direction (Seven of Cups.)

Whatever the lesson card may be, that’s the keystone that holds the whole reading together.  Figure out what the client needs to learn, and you figure out what’s happening to her and why.  

Don’t just look at the effect – look at the cause.  And that will change the effect.

Tarot and the Root Chakra – Part Three – Finding Healing

Resources for Healing the Root Chakra – Part Three in a series on Tarot and the Root Chakra.

Root Chakra Meditation Poster – Available on Etsy.

This is the last of a three part series on Tarot and the root chakra.  In the first part, “10 Tarot Cards That May Indicate a Blocked Root Chakra (1st Chakra)” we looked at some of the cards that are signposts for root chakra issues.  In the second part, “Understanding the Root Chakra More Deeply: Safety, Survival, and the Foundations of Self,” we explored some of the devastating effects that problems with our root chakra can cause in our adult lives.  

Of course, for any problem, we should also lay out some solutions, so in this post I’ve compiled some of the resources that I’ve personally used and found to be dependable.  If you’re aware of other resources that you’d like to see listed here, please don’t hesitate to write and let me know.

BOOKS:

Energy Rules: Deflect Negative Vibrations and Own Your Energy by Alla Svirinskaya.  This was originally published under the name of, “Own Your Energy,” and is a wonderful explanation of the chakras and meridian system by a world renowned energy healer.  She also has some interesting thoughts about energy vampires and how to preserve your unique energy identity.

Chakras Made Easy: Seven Keys to Awakening and Healing the Energy Body (Made Easy series) by Anodea Judith. A complete guide to understanding, working with and developing your connection to your chakra system for healing and transformation.  I’ve had this one in my library for several years and it’s one of the best and most complete explanations of the chakra system.

Root Chakra: The Ultimate Guide to Opening, Balancing, and Healing Muladhara (The Seven Chakras) by Mari Silva – Understand the role of your root chakra and learn how to keep it healthy and happy.  Silva has written extensively about the chakra system and this is short, easy read on the root chakra.

Unblocked: A Revolutionary Approach to Tapping into Your Chakra Empowerment Energy to Reclaim Your Passion, Joy, and Confidence by Margaret Lynch Raniere and David Raniere – This is centered around using EFT tapping to unblock your chakras, but does a very deep dive into the lower four chakras.  She especially covers how a blocked root chakra can lead to a weak sense of personal identity and severely affect our ability to attract abundance.

VIDEOS

Unblock Your SuperPowers – Chakra One – by Margaret Lynch Raniere – This is a really nice series covering that lower four chakras, which is an explanation of her book.  About an hour long and packed with good ideas.

10 Minute Root Chakra Guided Meditation – by Great Meditations – Great Meditations has several chakra meditations up and they’re all good.  If you have trouble meditating (or even if you don’t) this is a wonderful resource for quick, powerful visualizations.

Grounding with the First Chakra – Part One – by Sonia Choquette – Sonia, of course, is one of the best spiritual teachers out there and this is a wonderful three part series with many tips for immediate grounding.

10 min Chakra Meditation Series~Note C~1st~Root Chakra with Tibetan Bowls~No Vocals – by Temple Sounds – A quick sound meditation designed to stimulate the root chakra through vibrations.

Balance Your Chakras Using Tapping – Chakra #1 – by Helen McConnell Tapping Into Higher Consciousness – EFT tapping to heal root chakra blocks.

Yoga Nidra for the Root Chakra – 30 Minute Yoga Nidra for the Root Chakra with Costa Rican Jungle Soundscape – by Ally Boothroyd, Sarovara Yoga – All of her yoga Nidra videos are incredibly healing and this one is specifically for root chakra.

“Just the Tarot,” by Dan Adair – available on Amazon