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How Many Clarifier Cards Are Too Many in Tarot?

How many clarifier cards should you draw in a Tarot reading? Clarifiers can bring valuable insight to a confusing card, but draw too many and they may muddy the message rather than clarify it. Learn when to draw an extra card, when to stop, and how to recognize when the Tarot has already given you the answer.

How Many Clarifier Cards Are Too Many?

There comes a moment in almost every Tarot reading when you turn over a card, look at it for a while, and think:

“What the hell does that mean?”

So you pull another card to clarify it.

Unfortunately, the second card isn’t much help. You pull another. That one introduces an entirely new problem, so you pull another one. Ten minutes later, your innocent three-card spread has turned into a fifteen-card archaeological dig, and you’re considerably more confused than when you started.

Such are the perils of the clarifier card.

A clarifier is simply an additional Tarot card drawn to give you more information about a card already on the table. Used properly, it’s an extremely useful technique.

Suppose you’re asking about a new job opportunity and the Moon appears. That’s meaningful, but there are several possibilities. Is something being concealed? Are your own fears clouding your judgment? Is the situation simply too undeveloped for you to know what’s happening yet?

So you ask:

“What is the Moon referring to in this reading?”

You draw the Seven of Swords.

Now you’ve learned something. The Moon hasn’t disappeared or been replaced by the Seven of Swords. Instead, the Seven has narrowed the field. There may be information you don’t have, something occurring behind the scenes, or someone who isn’t being entirely straightforward.

That’s a clarifier doing its job.

The difficulty begins when we use clarifiers for something else entirely: trying to get a different answer.

Imagine asking whether a romantic relationship has a future and drawing the Eight of Cups.

You don’t particularly like that, so you ask for clarification.

Ten of Swords.

That’s even worse.

Another clarifier: Five of Cups.

By now the Tarot is practically standing on the table with a bullhorn, but you keep going.

And then—The Star!

Aha! You knew it! Everything is going to work out!

Except that isn’t clarification. You simply kept drawing until the deck produced a card you liked.

It’s an especially easy trap to fall into when you’re reading for yourself.

So how many clarifiers should you draw?

There isn’t an official Tarot rule, but mine is simple:

One clarifier is usually enough. Two should be the absolute maximum.

If the first additional card doesn’t make the situation clearer, I may occasionally draw a second. After that, I stop.

Because by then, the problem probably isn’t that there aren’t enough cards on the table. The problem is that I haven’t understood what they’re saying yet.

Five more cards aren’t necessarily going to fix that. More likely, they’ll give me five additional symbols, relationships and possible interpretations to sort through.

Sometimes the most productive response to a confusing reading is to walk away from it.

Write the cards down. Take a photograph. Go make coffee. Look at the spread again in an hour, or even the next day. Once you’ve stopped wrestling with it, the meaning will often become perfectly apparent.

Another way to avoid unnecessary clarifiers is to give the clarifier a specific question.

Don’t merely think, “Clarify this.”

Ask exactly what you need to know.

If you draw the Tower, you might ask:

“What area of my life does the Tower refer to?”

If you draw the Seven of Cups:

“What am I failing to see clearly?”

If you draw the Two of Swords:

“What decision am I avoiding?”

Now the extra card has a defined purpose rather than simply adding another symbol to an already complicated reading.

There’s also another possibility we sometimes overlook: perhaps the original card is ambiguous because ambiguity itself is the answer.

The Moon is a wonderful example. You ask what’s going to happen in a situation and draw the Moon. Naturally, you want to know more.

But the Moon may be saying that there isn’t anything more you can know right now.

You don’t have all the information. Events are developing out of sight. Emotion may be interfering with perception. The situation hasn’t settled into a definite form.

If that’s the message, drawing six more cards to force certainty out of the deck defeats the purpose. The Tarot may already have given you its answer:

You don’t know yet.

There’s one more useful question to ask yourself before reaching for another card:

“Am I trying to understand this reading, or am I trying to make myself feel better?”

Those aren’t the same thing.

A clarifier drawn because you’re genuinely trying to understand a card can be tremendously helpful. A clarifier drawn because the answer makes you anxious can easily lead to one more card, then another, then another—until eventually you find the reassurance you wanted.

At that point, you’re no longer listening to the Tarot.

You’re negotiating with it.

And Tarot is a lousy negotiating partner.

So before drawing anything else, give the original card a chance to speak. Look at its imagery. Think about its traditional meanings. Consider its position in the spread and its relationship to the cards around it. Ask yourself why that particular card appeared in answer to that particular question.

Quite often, you’ll discover that the clarification was already there.

And when it genuinely isn’t?

Draw one card.

Maybe two.

But if you’ve drawn eight clarifiers and you’re still confused, put the deck down.

The Tarot has probably already said what it has to say.

What Should You Do When a Tarot Reading Makes No Sense?

What do you do when a Tarot reading makes absolutely no sense? Before assuming the cards have failed, consider what they may be reflecting. Mental confusion, rapid life changes, hidden information, or simple denial can all produce a seemingly muddled reading. Learn how to recognize underlying patterns, step back from confusing cards, and trust that sometimes the best answer is simply: more will be revealed.

There are times, especially when you’re new to reading Tarot cards, when you lay out a reading and it makes absolutely no sense. Not only does it seem to have nothing to do with what’s happening in your life, but the cards don’t even seem to connect with each other.

So what do you do when that happens?

I’ve found that a good first step is to step back, look at the cards, scratch your head, and say: “What in the HELL does that mean?”

It doesn’t solve the reading, but it clears the air.

There are, however, some questions we can ask that may help.

HOW’S YOUR HEAD?

I’ve found that I’m most likely to get muddled readings when I’M muddled.

In other words, it’s not the cards’ energy. It’s my energy.

After all, when we lay out a Tarot reading, it’s a snapshot of what’s happening in our lives at that particular moment. It may tell us something about what’s happened in the immediate past, what’s going on right now, and what’s likely to happen in the immediate future.

If I’ve got a head full of fuzz because I haven’t been taking care of myself energetically, that’s exactly what’s going to show up in the reading. If I’m anxious or a bit hyper, if my thoughts are bouncing all over the place like a pinball, the reading may bounce all over the place, too.

It isn’t that the cards AREN’T working—it’s that they are. They’re mirroring back to me exactly what my current reality looks like. If my thoughts don’t make any sense, neither will the reading.

ARE THINGS CHANGING IN YOUR LIFE?

There are times in everyone’s life when things change very rapidly.

We can be plodding along, getting up in the morning, going to work, doing our jobs. Life is perfectly normal.

Then suddenly we feel as if we’ve been thrown into a blender.

Perhaps we come home from work and discover that our partner has moved out. Perhaps we’re suddenly transferred to a new office and have to move. Perhaps we wake up one morning and think, “Man, none of this makes any sense. I’m starting over.”

When our lives are in flux, our readings may be in flux, too.

If things are changing so rapidly that we can’t keep up with them, the cards may simply be reflecting that reality. When things begin to settle down, the readings often will, too.

IS THERE A LOT OF RATIONALIZATION OR DENIAL GOING ON?

This can apply when we’re doing readings for ourselves, but it can be particularly important when we’re reading for other people.

It’s perfectly natural for all of us to try to present ourselves in the most positive light. Sometimes, however, we take that to the extreme of completely denying what’s really going on in our lives.

You may sit down to do a reading for someone who appears to have it all together. They’re well dressed. They’ve got a good job, a loving partner, and 2.5 beautiful children.

That’s what they’re projecting to the world—and perhaps to themselves. But underneath the image of the perfect life, they’re a mess. Their partner is emotionally abusive, their children are having trouble in school, their credit cards are maxed out, and they’re behind on their house payments.

So you lay out the cards. The reading reflects all of that.

And they look at you and say, “That’s not right. Everything in my life is wonderful.”

The cards may be telling the truth, but the questioner isn’t.

SO WHAT DO WE DO?

The solutions to all of these scenarios are fairly straightforward.

1. Wait and do the reading again later. If you’re extremely upset, physically exhausted, very anxious, or mentally scattered, you’re probably not going to get a clear reading.

Get some rest. Meditate. Do some EFT tapping. Clear your energy.

When you’re clearer, your reading may be clearer, too.

2. Accept the chaos until it settles down.

If everything in your life is upside down and sideways, you’re probably not going to get a nice, orderly reading.

If you don’t know what the hell is going on in your life, why should the cards pretend otherwise?

Once things begin to settle, your readings may begin to make more sense.

3. Remember that the cards may actually be one hundred percent accurate—but there are factors you aren’t aware of.

If the questioner is lying to you, withholding information, or simply unable to see what’s happening in their own life, a reading may LOOK as if it doesn’t make sense when it actually does. And if we’re lying to ourselves, we may genuinely be unable to see the patterns in our lives, even when they’re laid out in front of us.

The missing ingredient may simply be information.

LOOK FOR UNDERLYING PATTERNS

Another thing we can do with a muddled reading is stop trying to interpret every individual card and look at the reading as a whole.

Are nearly all of the cards reversed? That may indicate that much of what’s happening is internal, blocked, delayed, or being experienced subjectively rather than expressed openly in the world.

Is one suit predominating?

If you get a reading that’s almost entirely Cups, emotion and relationships may be overwhelming everything else.

If Swords dominate, there may be too much thinking, worrying, conflict, analysis, or mental agitation.

Too many Wands may indicate that you’re pushing too hard, trying to do too much, or running on nervous energy and sheer willpower.

And if Pentacles dominate, you may be overly focused on money, work, security, possessions, or the practical realities of life.

You don’t necessarily have to understand every card to understand what the reading is telling you.

WHAT ABOUT THE MAJOR ARCANA?

Are there a lot of Major Arcana cards?

This can be an especially important clue when your life has gone topsy-turvy. Any card from the Major Arcana can act like a bright, flashing light saying:

“Pay attention. This is important.”

If you have several Major Arcana cards in a single reading, you may be dealing with something larger than the ordinary events of the day. Major forces may be at work in your life. An old pattern may be ending. A new phase may be beginning. Something fundamental may be shifting.

And if that shift is still underway, it may be impossible to see exactly where it’s taking you.

BE PATIENT

There’s a saying in 12-Step groups: More will be revealed.

And that’s often true with the Tarot.

If a reading doesn’t seem to make any sense, wait a few days and look at it again. If it still doesn’t make sense, set it aside and come back to it later.

Very often you’ll discover that the cards were astonishingly accurate. There was simply a piece of the puzzle you didn’t have yet. As a little time goes by, the missing pieces emerge—and suddenly the reading makes sense.

If you’re a beginner, I’d actually encourage you to keep a Tarot journal.

Write down your readings—especially the ones that make no sense—and then go back and check them after a few days or a few weeks.

I think you’ll be surprised at what you find.

Can You Read Tarot for Yourself?

Can you read Tarot cards for yourself? Absolutely—but self-readings come with both advantages and pitfalls. Learn why reading Tarot for yourself can be remarkably insightful, how personal blind spots can affect your interpretations, and why repeatedly asking the cards the same question usually creates more confusion than clarity.

A question that many newly minted Tarot readers ask is, “Can I do readings for myself?”

And the answer to that is: Oh, hell, yes.

People have been doing Tarot readings for themselves for as long as people have been reading Tarot cards.

It’s not an unreasonable question, though. In all the years I’ve been doing Tarot readings, I’ve heard the same statement from several people:

“You can’t do readings for yourself. Everyone knows that.”

I’ve never been able to track down exactly who “everyone” is, or where they came up with this rule, but the idea is definitely out there.

So, just to be definitive about it: it’s wrong.

The Advantages of Reading for Yourself

The most obvious advantage of reading for yourself is that nobody knows you quite like you know yourself.

And that means there’s often much less guesswork involved in figuring out what the cards mean.

For instance, suppose a card like The Devil comes up in your reading. Someone who doesn’t know you can make a series of educated guesses based on the traditional meanings of the card.

“Ummm . . . there could be a problem with addiction in your life. Or perhaps there’s an unhealthy or obsessive sexual element involved. Or you might be refusing to recognize some pattern of self-harm . . .”

But they don’t really know, because they don’t really know you.

You, on the other hand, can look at the same card and immediately realize:

“Yeah, I’m drinking too much.”

Or:

“I really shouldn’t be having an affair with the neighbor’s wife.”

Or:

“I really need to quit sticking pins in that voodoo doll of my boss.”

That simple self-knowledge can make a reading much easier and clearer than one you might get from a stranger. You already know the cast of characters, the circumstances, and the history. The card doesn’t have to explain the whole situation to you. It only has to point at it.

The Disadvantages of Reading for Yourself

The major disadvantage of reading for yourself is that—guess what?—we’re all human.

We rationalize. We deny. We conveniently overlook things. And many of us have a somewhat inflated—or at least carefully edited—image of ourselves.

Sometimes we can look at cards that are giving us a very, very clear message and simply say:

“Nope. That’s not me.”

Psychologist Jennifer Freyd coined the term “betrayal blindness” to describe the way people can sometimes remain unaware of betrayal when recognizing it would threaten an important relationship or situation.

To use an extreme example, someone might be married to an absolute cheating horn dog—a partner who is screwing around with other women all week long and twice on Sunday—but she simply cannot allow herself to see it.

She finds the motel receipts, the lipstick on the collar, and the condoms in the glove box, but somehow there’s a perfectly reasonable explanation for all of it.

That same person probably isn’t going to see the truth in the Tarot cards either.

She might lay out a reading that practically screams that her partner is a no-good, lying, cheating lowlife, and she’ll still find some way to interpret the cards differently.

And we all have areas of our lives where we deceive ourselves.

For most of us they aren’t quite that dramatic, but the blind spots are still there. Someone else reading for us may spot those inconsistencies immediately, while we unconsciously find ways to explain them away.

That’s the real danger of reading for yourself. It isn’t that the cards somehow stop working when you’re the person shuffling them.

It’s that you may not want to hear what they’re saying.

Don’t Obsess

There’s one other warning about reading for yourself that’s worth mentioning:

Don’t obsess.

In other words, don’t fall into the pattern of constantly reading the cards, looking for one more clue about what you’re supposed to do.

And that’s tempting. Believe me.

After all, when you’re reading for yourself, the readings are free and you can do as many of them as you want.

But realistically, Tarot readings tend to fall into two broad categories.

The first kind is crystal clear. It tells you, in effect:

“This is what’s happening. This is what you need to do. And this is probably what will happen if you don’t do it.”

The second kind—which is much less common—is muddled. The cards don’t seem to form a coherent message, or several contradictory possibilities seem to be in play.

In my experience, that usually means the situation itself hasn’t settled yet. Too many things are moving around, and you simply need to wait until the dust clears.

Either way, doing another seventeen readings probably isn’t going to help.

If you’ve already received a clear reading, the answer isn’t going to change just because you keep asking the question.

And if the reading is genuinely muddled, it probably isn’t going to become clear until the situation itself becomes clearer.

All you’re likely to get from repeatedly throwing the cards is frustration, confusion, and a big fat waste of your time.

Keep Reading

So, by all means, read Tarot for yourself.

Just be reasonable about it, and remember that self-knowledge cuts both ways. Knowing your own life intimately can make a reading extraordinarily clear—but your own biases and blind spots can occasionally make the obvious invisible.

Unless there’s a specific problem I need to address, I usually do one predictive reading at the beginning of each week. It gives me a general feel for the energies and circumstances I’m likely to encounter.

It’s a simple four-card reading:

1 — What are the current conditions?
2 — What needs to be done?
3 — What factors are working against me?
4 — What is the probable outcome?

And that’s it.

That gives me all the information I need to stumble through the week.

Sometimes the reading surprises me. Sometimes it tells me something I already suspected. And sometimes I don’t fully understand what a card was talking about until several days later.

But the point isn’t to consult the Tarot every fifteen minutes.

The point is to get the message, think about it, and then go live your life.

How Do I Know Which Tarot Meaning is the Right One?

Which Tarot card meanings should you believe when different books and websites give you different answers? Learn why the images in the Waite-Smith Tarot are one of the best guides to understanding what the cards actually mean—and why sometimes the simplest approach to reading Tarot is simply to look at the pictures.

WHICH TAROT CARD MEANING SHOULD YOU BELIEVE?

One of the questions a lot of beginning Tarot readers have is, “Which definition should I believe?”

If I find two different definitions of the same card that seem to say completely different things, which one should I use?

Actually, that’s not as much of a problem as many new readers might think. You can skim through the various Tarot sites on the internet and discover that most of the definitions are remarkably homogeneous. If anything, there’s sometimes a troubling lack of imagination in them.

Still, there are differences, and those differences can affect your ability to read the cards.

One book might stress that The Emperor brings order and structure, while another views him as rigid and controlling. One site might describe The Hierophant as organized religion, while another sees him as a teacher, mentor or guru figure.

So how do you decide?

THE PAMELA COLMAN SMITH COLORING BOOK

A good starting point for any reader is simply to LOOK at the cards. What are they actually saying?

And I don’t mean, “What vibe am I picking up from this card?” I mean literally look at what the image portrays.

The best place to learn how to do that is the Waite-Smith Tarot deck. The artist behind that deck, Pamela Colman Smith—also known as Pixie—did a phenomenal job of portraying the essence of each card. In a very real sense, the images ARE the definitions.

Each one is a little visual story that tells you what the card is about.

The Three of Swords shows a heart pierced by three swords. It means heartache.

The Five of Wands shows five guys wailing away at each other with sticks. It means conflict, competition or vigorous engagement.

The Eight of Pentacles shows a man sitting at his workbench carving pentacles. It means work, practice and developing skill.

The Three of Cups shows three people raising their goblets and dancing together. It means celebration, friendship and having a good time.

Not too hard, right?

If you’re a beginning reader, start with those pictures and those stories. Think of the Waite-Smith deck almost as a coloring book in which every picture tells a story. Your first job is simply to learn how to read the pictures.

WHEN THE DEFINITIONS ARE WRONG

There ARE times when standard Tarot definitions have drifted away from the images on the cards. When that happens, you can use the artwork itself to double-check the definition.

Let me give you an example.

Take a look at the Nine of Cups. What do you actually see?

When I was learning the Tarot many, many years ago, a common interpretation of this card was an individual who is doing well materially but has a certain air of smugness and self-satisfaction about him.

And that’s pretty much what Colman Smith portrayed. He isn’t smiling so much as smirking. His body language—crossed arms and widely planted legs—practically screams that this is somebody who is very pleased with himself.

It wasn’t necessarily a BAD card. It simply wasn’t a particularly elevated one.

Fast-forward to today, and the Nine of Cups is frequently called “the wish card.” Whatever you want, you can have. Your wishes are coming true.

Really?

Is that what you see in this picture? Rainbows and unicorns?

Obviously not.

That doesn’t mean every modern interpretation of the Nine of Cups is useless. But it does mean we should occasionally stop repeating definitions we’ve inherited and ask a very simple question: Does this interpretation actually fit the card?

The Waite-Smith deck gives us a remarkably useful visual reality check. If a definition bears little resemblance to the picture, it’s worth questioning the definition.

IS THIS A SHALLOW APPROACH?

There are plenty of self-professed experts who will tell you that the Tarot is incredibly complicated and deep.

And they’re right.

Tarot symbolism can be profound and extremely complex. You can spend years studying these cards and continue finding new layers of meaning in them.

But if you’re a beginning reader, you don’t need to worry about all of that right now.

As time goes by, you may want to take a much deeper dive into the cards. You may want to explore numerology, astrology, Kabbalah, alchemy and the various occult traditions that influenced the Tarot.

That can come later. Fortunately, A. E. Waite and Pamela Colman Smith did much of that work for you, and they embedded an enormous amount of it in the deck.

For now, you can do something much simpler.

Pick up the cards. Lay out a reading. Look at the pictures.

What story are they telling you?

That’s where Tarot reading begins.

I also offer a free beginner’s Tarot course here on the website, so if you’re just getting started, you may want to give that a quick read.

But above all, keep it simple.

And keep it fun.

Why Do I Keep Getting the Same Tarot Card Over and Over?

Why does the same Tarot card keep appearing in your readings? A repeating card may point to stuck energy, an important person in your life, or something you haven’t been willing to see. Learn why Tarot sometimes repeats itself—and what that persistent card may be asking you to notice.

One of the spookier things that can happen to a new Tarot reader is getting the same card over and over again.

No matter how many readings you do, there it is. It may drift around to different positions in the spread. It may appear as an answer to completely different questions. You shuffle thoroughly, cut the deck, and perhaps even put the cards away for a few days.

And then you do another reading. There it is again.

It can begin to feel as though the card is glued to your aura.

Oddly enough, this can also be one of the most reassuring experiences in Tarot. There are 78 cards in a standard deck, so when one particular card begins appearing with remarkable persistence, it certainly gets your attention.

So what does it mean?

In my experience, there are three basic reasons a Tarot card may keep appearing:

1. Stuck energy — something in your life isn’t changing.

2. A particular person — someone important is being represented by the card.

3. Something you aren’t acknowledging — an important situation or energy needs your attention.

STUCK ENERGY

A Tarot reading doesn’t really “predict the future.” Instead, it gives us a snapshot of what’s happening in our lives right now and then suggests the probable outcome if those forces continue moving in the same direction.

To use a very simple example, suppose you get the Two of Cups—falling in love—followed by the Three of Swords—heartbreak.

That might suggest that the new romance you’re entering isn’t likely to work out. But that’s not written in stone, because nothing is written in stone. The cards are essentially saying:

“This is where things appear to be heading if nothing changes.”

And nothing changing is one reason certain cards may constantly reappear. If we’re stuck in a loop in which we keep doing the same things over and over, the cards representing that pattern may simply keep coming back.

And here’s the deal: we’re not supposed to stay the same. Human beings are constantly learning, changing and evolving. If the Tarot keeps throwing the same card at you, it may be pointing toward a pattern that needs to change.

In the example above, perhaps you keep falling in love with people who eventually hurt you. At some point, stop looking at them and start looking at yourself.

Why am I doing this? Why am I repeatedly attracted to people who can’t fulfill me or meet my needs?

The repeating Tarot card may not be telling you what is going to happen next. It may be telling you what you keep doing.

PEOPLE

There are times when another person exerts a particularly strong influence on our lives, and we need to be aware of what they’re doing. When that happens, the Tarot may repeatedly produce the same card to represent that person and call our attention to them.

There’s nothing particularly unusual about cards representing people. The Court Cards have traditionally served that function, but other cards can do it as well.

For instance, if you’re involved with someone who is particularly loving and nurturing, The Empress may appear prominently because she embodies those qualities.

I’ve found, though, that repeating cards representing people can become particularly noticeable when there’s conflict involved—when someone else’s actions may be affecting you in ways you need to recognize.

For example, I was once involved in a contested probate, and the Queen of Pentacles reversed kept appearing.

In another context, the reversed Queen of Pentacles might suggest a need for self-nurturing, insecurity around material matters, or energies that have become overly focused on possessions and control.

But when she represents another person, the interpretation can be quite different. As Sasha Fenton rather memorably puts it:

“This lady will win if involved in a fight with the questioner, especially if money is involved.”

That was certainly an interesting card to have repeatedly appearing during a legal dispute over an estate. To me, the message was clear: pay attention to this person. Don’t underestimate her. Money and material interests are central to what’s happening.

So when one card keeps popping up—particularly during a troubled or stressful period—ask yourself:

Could this card represent someone in my life? Is the Tarot pointing a great big flashing neon arrow at someone and saying:

“Pay attention to this one.”

DENIAL

Human beings can go to amazing lengths to avoid seeing something when we really don’t want to see it.

Psychologist Jennifer Freyd coined the term “betrayal blindness” to describe the way people may remain unaware of, or fail to fully acknowledge, betrayal when it threatens an important relationship or situation.

Imagine, for example, a woman whose husband is cheating on her.

The evidence may be sitting right there in plain sight: unexplained motel receipts, long private phone calls, suspicious messages on social media. But somehow she doesn’t put the pieces together.

Then one day something happens and suddenly everything clicks and she asks “How could I have been so blind?”

As the old cliché puts it: “Denial ain’t a river in Egypt.”

And Tarot doesn’t seem to have much patience with denial. If there’s something in your life that is vitally important for you to acknowledge and deal with, the cards may keep pointing toward it over and over again until you’re finally willing to look.

In the situation we just described, perhaps the Seven of Swords—traditionally associated with secrecy, deception and things happening behind the scenes—keeps appearing.

At first, the woman may be genuinely puzzled. “What in the world does that have to do with me?”

But the card keeps coming back.

Seven of Swords.

Eventually, instead of asking what the card means, she begins asking a much more useful question: “What am I not seeing?”

And that’s when she may finally start noticing those motel receipts.

TAKE THE BLINDERS OFF

If we wanted to sum all of this up in one sentence, it might simply be: Take the blinders off.

Or perhaps: take off the rose-colored glasses.

When the Tarot repeatedly gives us the same card, the most useful response isn’t necessarily to reshuffle the deck and ask the question again.

It’s to stop. Look at the card.

And ask yourself: Why does this particular message keep coming back?

Am I stuck in a pattern? Does this card represent someone who is having an important influence on my life? Is there something happening that I don’t want to acknowledge?

Sometimes the card that won’t go away is precisely the card we most need to understand.

Tarot can be remarkably patient. It can whisper the same message very gently for a very long time. But it can also be remarkably persistent.

At a certain point, you have a choice: deal with the issue—or quit asking the cards about it.

What you can’t do is keep asking the same question and expect the Tarot to tell you something different.

Should You Read Reversed Tarot Cards Differently?

Should you interpret reversed Tarot cards differently—or simply turn them upright and read them normally? This post explores both approaches, including reversals as blocked, weakened, excessive, or inwardly directed energy, and shows how understanding the card’s basic energy can make reversals far easier to interpret.

You turn over a Tarot card and there it is:

The Empress—upside down.

Now what?

If you’re new to Tarot, reversed cards can make an already complicated subject seem twice as difficult. You finally begin learning the meanings of 78 cards, only to discover that some books provide an entirely separate meaning for every card when it appears reversed.

Suddenly it seems as though you’re expected to memorize 156 Tarot cards. Fortunately, you aren’t.

The real question isn’t whether you should read a reversed card. Obviously, the card is still part of the reading. The question is whether you should interpret that card differently because it appeared upside down.

Some Tarot readers do. Others simply turn the card upright and interpret it normally, allowing the question, its position in the spread and the surrounding cards to determine which aspects of the card apply. Neither approach is inherently right or wrong.

So let’s look at what reversals can add to a reading—and whether you actually need them.

WHAT IS A REVERSED TAROT CARD?

A reversed card is simply a Tarot card that appears upside down in a reading.

Some readers deliberately shuffle their decks so that cards can appear in either direction and consider the reversed orientation part of the message. Other readers don’t assign any special significance to orientation. If a card appears upside down, they simply turn it upright and read the card normally.

This doesn’t mean they’re ignoring the reversed card or rejecting its more difficult meanings. Quite the opposite. They consider those meanings to be already contained within the card.

For example, The Emperor can represent healthy structure, leadership and stability. But Emperor energy can also become rigid, authoritarian and controlling. A reader who uses reversals might associate some of those more difficult qualities with The Emperor reversed.

A reader who doesn’t use reversals may see exactly the same qualities in an upright Emperor, depending upon the question and the card’s position in the spread. The difference isn’t necessarily in what the card can mean. It’s in how the reader determines which meaning applies.

WHAT DOES A REVERSED CARD MEAN?

Here’s where things become interesting.

There is no single rule.

A reversed card might suggest that the upright energy is:

* Blocked or frustrated

* Weakened

* Excessive or out of balance

* Turned inward

* Delayed or incomplete

* Being resisted

* Expressing its more difficult or shadow qualities

Occasionally, the reversed card may even suggest something close to the opposite of its usual meaning.

That’s much more sophisticated than simply saying: Upright = good. Reversed = bad. In fact, some reversed cards can be quite encouraging.

The Devil reversed might suggest breaking free from an unhealthy attachment. The Eight of Swords reversed might indicate recognizing that you aren’t nearly as trapped as you believed.

Meanwhile, an apparently wonderful card such as The Sun reversed could suggest that happiness is available but something is preventing you from fully experiencing it.

Reversals aren’t necessarily negative. They can simply show us that something unusual is happening to the card’s energy.

REVERSALS AS BLOCKED ENERGY

One of the easiest ways to begin working with reversals is to think of them as blocked energy.

Every Tarot card represents a particular kind of energy or experience.

The Magician wants to create.

The Empress wants to nurture.

The Chariot wants to move forward.

The Star wants to shine.

When one of those cards appears reversed, we can ask: What is preventing this energy from expressing itself naturally?

The reversed Magician might suggest unused ability or uncertainty about your own power.

The reversed Empress might indicate difficulty nurturing yourself—or nurturing everyone else until you’ve exhausted yourself.

The reversed Chariot might represent plenty of effort but no clear direction.

The reversed Star might indicate that your light is still there, but you’ve temporarily lost confidence in it.

The original meaning of the card hasn’t disappeared. Something has happened to it.

SOMETIMES THERE’S TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING

A reversal can also suggest excess. Sometimes the problem isn’t too little of the card’s energy. It’s too much.

The Emperor’s structure can become rigid control.

The Hermit’s solitude can become isolation.

The Four of Pentacles’ stability can become possessiveness.

The Knight of Swords’ determination can become reckless action.

In this approach, the reversed card acts almost like a warning light: This energy has moved out of balance. That’s particularly useful in psychological or self-development readings because a reversal can reveal where an otherwise healthy quality has become exaggerated.

REVERSALS CAN TURN THE ENERGY INWARD

There’s another way of interpreting reversals that I particularly like.

Sometimes an upright card can represent energy being expressed in the external world, while the reversed card suggests that the same process is taking place internally.

The Queen of Cups upright might describe compassion and emotional sensitivity directed toward other people. Reversed, she might ask you to direct some of that compassion toward yourself.

The Magician upright might indicate using your abilities to create something in the world. Reversed, he might suggest discovering abilities within yourself that haven’t yet found outward expression.

This interpretation won’t work for every card or every reading. But that’s the point. Reversals aren’t formulas. They’re additional information.

DO REVERSED CARDS MEAN THE OPPOSITE?

Sometimes—but I wouldn’t make that the automatic assumption.

Consider The Hermit. Upright, The Hermit can represent solitude, contemplation and turning inward in search of wisdom.

If we simply reverse that meaning, does The Hermit reversed mean being sociable and going to a party? Probably not. It might indicate too much isolation.

Or perhaps the person desperately needs solitude but isn’t getting it.

Maybe they’ve found something during their period of introspection that now needs to be brought back into the world.

Instead of asking:

What’s the opposite of The Hermit?

Try asking: What has happened to the energy of The Hermit?

That opens considerably more interesting possibilities.

WHY SOME READERS DON’T USE REVERSALS

There’s a very good argument for not assigning reversed cards separate meanings: The Tarot already contains an enormous range of human experience.

We certainly don’t have a shortage of difficult cards.

The Tower, Devil, Three of Swords, Five of Pentacles and Ten of Swords are perfectly capable of telling us when something has gone wrong.

More importantly, every Tarot card already contains both light and shadow.

The Emperor can represent healthy structure or oppressive control.

The Hermit can represent valuable solitude or unhealthy isolation.

The Moon can represent intuition or confusion.

The Four of Pentacles can represent financial stability or fearfully clinging to what you possess.

You don’t necessarily need to turn a card upside down to access those meanings. The question being asked, the position of the card within the spread and the cards surrounding it can provide the context.

That’s why a reader who doesn’t use reversals isn’t reading only the “positive half” of Tarot. They’re reading the entire spectrum of meaning contained within each upright card.

BUT REVERSALS HAVE ONE BIG ADVANTAGE

They get your attention.

Suppose The Emperor appears in a position labeled: What’s preventing me from moving forward?

Even upright, that position tells us that some aspect of Emperor energy may be causing difficulty. Perhaps there’s too much structure, too much control or an unwillingness to deviate from the plan.

But if The Emperor appears reversed, we receive an additional visual signal: Something about this energy isn’t functioning normally.

A reversed card interrupts the visual flow of a spread. It makes us stop and look again. It’s almost as though Tarot has underlined the card.

And that can be extremely useful.

WHAT IF HALF THE READING IS REVERSED?

This is where reversals can become more interesting than individual card meanings.

If one card is reversed, look closely at that card. If most of the spread is reversed, look at the pattern.

Perhaps the situation is stalled. Perhaps there’s tremendous internal activity but very little outward movement. Perhaps someone is resisting change. Perhaps energy is being blocked in several different areas.

Or perhaps you accidentally turned half the deck upside down while shuffling.

Never underestimate the mystical power of bad shuffling.

SHOULD BEGINNERS USE REVERSALS?

I’d suggest learning the basic meanings of the cards first.

Not because reversals are especially difficult, but because understanding the fundamental energy of a card makes its reversal much easier to interpret.

If you understand The Chariot as directed movement, determination and willpower, you don’t need to memorize an entirely separate paragraph for The Chariot reversed.

You can simply ask: What happens when Chariot energy isn’t working properly?

Maybe there’s no direction.

Maybe determination has become obsession.

Maybe you’re trying to control something that can’t be controlled.

Maybe you’re pushing ahead when you should stop.

Now you aren’t memorizing another Tarot definition. You’re thinking about the card. And that’s ultimately a much better way to learn Tarot.

SO—SHOULD YOU INTERPRET REVERSED CARDS DIFFERENTLY?

You don’t have to.

If a reversed card appears, you can turn it upright and interpret the full range of meanings contained within that card. The question, spread position and surrounding cards can tell you whether its constructive or difficult qualities are being expressed.

Or you can leave it reversed and treat its orientation as one more piece of information in the reading.

Neither method gives you a more “authentic” Tarot reading. They’re simply different systems.

If you do choose to use reversals, however, I think there’s a much more useful question than: “What does this card mean upside down?”

Ask instead: “What has happened to the energy of this card?”

Is it blocked? Weakened? Exaggerated? Turned inward? Delayed? Being resisted?

Once you begin thinking about reversals that way, you don’t have another 78 definitions to memorize.

You simply have another way of looking at the 78 cards you already know.

The Judgement Card and Starting a New Cycle

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There’s something creepy about the Judgement card, especially to the modern eye. When we see corpses climbing out of coffins, our minds immediately go to some sort of a zombie apocalypse where dead people are trying to take over the earth.

Yikes! Run away, run away!

JUDGEMENT AND REINCARNATION

Obviously, the intent of the card and the artist was to portray Judgement Day, when the Angel Gabriel blows his horn and we all rise from the dead and have a nice brunch with Jesus and his Daddy.

While that may seem like a bit of a primitive belief today, it probably points toward the doctrine of reincarnation. We have to remember that the Tarot was introduced into Europe at a time when the Inquisition was in full swing. The priests and monks would happily tie you to a stake, light a fire under you, and toast s’mores if you deviated from their doctrine.

Reincarnation definitely deviated from their doctrine, so the designers of the Tarot cards had to have a way to introduce the concept without getting themselves killed. Judgement Day was the closest Christian analog to the concept, and so we have this very Christian scene with reanimated corpses.

JUDGEMENT AND THE TAROT JOURNEY

The Major Arcana of the Tarot shows the journey of the new soul, as illustrated in The Fool, through the various stages of life here on the Earth School. At different times we may reincarnate as royalty, as warriors, as mystics, as priests and prelates, each lifetime a stage of growth and evolution.

Included in those cards is the Death card. Now, the logical question here is why the Judgement card wasn’t paired with the Death card. That would be the normal Christian sequence, would it not? You live your life, you die, and then Gabriel blows his horn and you pop into heaven or hell. Period.

Using the Christian doctrine, Death and Judgement should have been the last cards in the deck. But they aren’t.

The Death card is followed by eight other cards, indicating that mortal death is far from the end. It isn’t even the end of that one journey; it’s just a rest stop.

The Judgement card reminds us that the journey goes on. When one lifetime ends, another begins, and we continue to reincarnate again and again until we finally learn the lessons we’re here to learn.

THE SYMBOLS

The symbolism in the Judgement card is a little heavy-handed.

The coffins represent past restrictions or boundaries that we’ve overcome.

The group of people rising from the coffins—man, woman, child—shows people rising from those restrictions and moving beyond them.

The angel blowing the horn denotes the divine vibration that reanimates us in our new incarnation.

For the most part, I discard the cross on the flag as another sop to Christian theology. If it were simply a white flag, we could interpret that as purification and starting over.

The mountains show the new obstacles that we’ll have to overcome in the next incarnation.

WHEN YOU GET JUDGEMENT IN A READING

Judgement obviously indicates a major awakening in our life. When it turns up in a reading, it shows that we’ve made a judgement about our lives and we’re turning in a whole new direction.

It is NOT about being judged by some cranky old man in the sky.

Ultimately, Judgement is about self-judgement. It’s taking stock of our lives and deciding whether we’re satisfied with what we’ve been doing. It’s making a decision about what direction we move in next. In most cases, if the card is upright, it indicates that we’ve made a positive judgement—we can look back over our incarnation and feel that we’ve made the right decisions and we’ve evolved. Now it’s time to move onward.

If the card is reversed, it can indicate harsh, negative self-judgement. It can indicate that we’re clinging to the past, refusing to move forward and deal with the karma we’ve accumulated. We choose to stay in our little boxes rather than starting a new cycle.

And, having made those judgements, we move on to the last card in the Tarot cycle, the new lifetime, The World.

Temperance: Finding the Right Proportion

The Temperance card as a personal balancing act.

Temperance is usually defined as moderation, balance, and avoiding extremes. But the imagery of the Tarot suggests something more precise. Temperance is not simply about having less of something—it is about discovering the right proportion between different forces in our lives.

At first glance, Temperance can seem like one of the simpler cards in the Major Arcana. An angel stands quietly, pouring liquid from one cup into another. One foot rests on the earth while the other stands in water. Behind the angel, a path winds toward distant mountains and a brilliant golden light.

Nothing particularly dramatic is happening.

But perhaps that’s the point.

Temperance is about the delicate process of bringing different parts of ourselves—and different parts of our lives—into the proper relationship with one another.

Temperance as a Cardinal Virtue

Temperance is one of the traditional cardinal virtues, along with Justice, Fortitude and Prudence. Three of these virtues survive quite recognizably in the standard Tarot: Justice, Strength (Fortitude), and Temperance. Prudence is conspicuously absent. (For more on the missing Prudence card, see my previous post Dear Prudence – The Mysterious Case of the Missing Tarot Card.)

In older Tarot decks such as the Tarot de Marseille, the imagery of Temperance is considerably simpler than that of the Waite-Smith card. We generally see an angelic figure pouring liquid between two vessels.

To modern eyes, pouring something from one cup to another may not immediately suggest moderation. Historically, however, the connection was much more obvious.

The older meaning of temperance was not merely abstaining from excess. The Latin root temperare carries the sense of regulating, combining or mixing things in the correct proportions. Water and wine, for example, could be mixed so that the strength of the wine was tempered.

This gives us the fundamental symbolism of the two cups.

Temperance is creating the right mixture.

And importantly, the right mixture does not necessarily mean equal amounts.

Balance Doesn’t Always Mean 50/50

We often visualize balance as equality. Put the same amount on both sides of a scale and equilibrium is achieved.

Temperance offers a different model.

Suppose you’re making soup. Equal quantities of salt and water would certainly represent equality, but they wouldn’t produce anything you’d want to eat.

The ingredients have to be present in the proper proportions.

The same principle applies to life.

We need work and rest, but that doesn’t mean twelve hours of each every day. We need independence and connection, reason and emotion, discipline and spontaneity. What constitutes the right balance changes according to circumstances.

Temperance therefore represents something more sophisticated than simply avoiding extremes. It asks:

What does this particular mixture require?

That is a dynamic form of balance. The liquid in the card is moving because maintaining equilibrium often requires continual adjustment.

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One Foot in the Water, One on the Land

A. E. Waite and Pamela Colman Smith greatly expanded the symbolism of the older Tarot image.

One of their most famous additions is the angel’s peculiar stance: one foot rests on dry land while the other is immersed in water.

Water traditionally represents emotion, intuition, imagination and the unconscious. Solid ground suggests physical reality, stability, practicality and the tangible world.

The angel doesn’t choose between them.

It participates in both.

We could read this very simply as advice to feel deeply without losing our grounding.

Someone who lives entirely through emotion may be swept along by every changing feeling. Someone who insists upon remaining completely rational and controlled may become disconnected from intuition and emotional reality.

Temperance asks for neither extreme.

It asks us to discover the useful proportion between them.

Head and Heart

Something similar appears in the symbols placed upon the angel’s forehead and chest.

It’s entirely possible that these were meant to represent the influences of the heart and brow chakras. And their placement naturally suggests another important polarity.

Head and heart.

Thought and feeling.

Reason and intuition.

Again, the card does not tell us which should win.

Imagine someone deciding whether to remain in a difficult relationship. Their emotions may say one thing while the observable facts say another.

Temperance doesn’t necessarily say, “Ignore your feelings and be rational.”

Nor does it say, “Follow your heart regardless of the evidence.”

Instead it asks the person to bring both sources of information into the same vessel.

What do I feel?

What do I know?

And what conclusion emerges when both are given their proper weight?

That’s Temperance at work.

Justice Weighs; Temperance Blends

This also gives us an interesting distinction between two of the cardinal virtue cards.

Both Justice and Temperance concern balance, but they achieve it differently.

Justice balances by weighing.

Temperance balances by blending.

Justice holds a scale. Separate things are compared against one another until equilibrium is established.

Temperance pours one thing into another. The elements aren’t merely compared—they become part of a new mixture.

That makes Temperance particularly useful when apparently contradictory needs are both legitimate.

Perhaps someone is pursuing an important creative project but becoming exhausted.

The answer isn’t necessarily to abandon the project. Nor is it necessarily to push harder.

Temperance asks a different question:

What proportion of work and restoration will allow the work to continue?

Perhaps the problem isn’t the goal at all.

The mixture is wrong.

The Path Toward the Light

Behind the angel is another important feature: a winding path disappearing into the distance.

It eventually reaches mountains beneath a brilliant golden light, within which appears something resembling a crown.

This introduces movement into an otherwise remarkably still card.

The angel isn’t walking along the road. The angel stands quietly performing the work of integration.

The road comes afterward.

That suggests a beautiful practical interpretation of Temperance. Sometimes we cannot see how to move forward because something within our present situation is badly out of proportion.

We may be working too much and recovering too little.

Thinking endlessly and feeling too little.

Giving constantly and receiving nothing.

Dreaming without acting—or acting without considering where we’re going.

When those elements are brought back into a workable relationship, the next step may become much easier to see.

The balance isn’t the destination.

The balance makes the journey possible.

Temperance in a Tarot Reading

When Temperance appears in a reading, the familiar advice to practice moderation is perfectly valid—but we can make it considerably more useful.

Temperance may be saying:

Something here needs to be brought into better proportion.

That might mean less of something, but it could equally mean more of something that has been neglected.

Too much work may require rest. Too much caution may require a little risk. Excessive emotional involvement may need perspective. Excessive intellectualization may need feeling. Constant giving may need to be balanced by receiving.

The card can also suggest that two things we’ve been treating as opposites don’t actually require an either/or decision. Perhaps they can be combined.

And that brings us back to those two cups.

The angel continually pours between them, adjusting the mixture.

Temperance isn’t asking us to eliminate one part of ourselves in favor of another. It asks us to discover how the different parts belong together.

Find the right proportion. Integrate the opposites. And when the mixture is right, continue along the path.

The Wheel of Fortune: Why Does Luck Seem So Unfair?

The Wheel of Fortune and dealing with the archetype of luck.

Was the Good Luck Fairy taking a bathroom break on the day you were born?

When your ship came in, were you at the airport?

Did your four-leaf clover turn out to be poison ivy?

If you’re one of the many people who feel like you came into this world under a cloud of bad luck, then The Wheel of Fortune may have an important lesson to teach.

The Archetype of Luck

The Wheel of Fortune is the Tarot’s great symbol of luck.

Every culture throughout history has recognized the existence of fortune, fate, chance, or providence—even if no one has ever managed to define exactly what luck is.

What we do know is that it seems wildly uneven.

Some people appear to be born under a lucky star. Opportunities seem to fall into their laps. They meet the right people at the right time. Doors mysteriously open.

Others spend their lives feeling like every door they approach has a “Closed” sign hanging on it.

Most of us live somewhere in between.

Luck is a remarkable force when you stop and think about it.

A successful investor can lose everything in a market crash through no fault of their own. Someone who has struggled financially for decades buys a lottery ticket on a whim and wakes up wealthy.

When Lady Luck smiles on us, everything seems to flow.

When she decides to leave, it can feel like nothing goes right.

The Wheel of Fortune represents that mysterious current moving beneath the surface of our lives.

The Old Interpretation

The older Tarot decks presented a fairly blunt message.

In the Tarot de Marseille, the wheel looks almost like a giant hamster wheel. Strange creatures ride its rim. One is climbing upward while another is tumbling down. At the top sits a stern ruler holding a sword, reminding us that fortune constantly changes.

The message is simple:

Up.

Down.

Up again.

Good luck.

Bad luck.

No one stays at the top forever, and no one remains at the bottom forever.

Waite’s New Interpretation

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Arthur Edward Waite and Pamela Colman Smith transformed the image into something much more mysterious.

The crude wheel became a beautiful circular symbol filled with esoteric imagery. Around its rim are symbols drawn from alchemy, Hebrew mysticism, and ancient tradition. The dark figure that once ruled the wheel has been pushed to the bottom.

Now the highest point belongs to the Sphinx.

That change is significant.

The Sphinx represents wisdom, mystery, and understanding. Rather than brute force ruling our fate, wisdom now sits above the turning of fortune.

And then there are those wonderfully puzzling creatures in the four corners.

They’re the fixed signs of the zodiac—Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, and Aquarius.

For some reason…

…they’re all reading books.

It’s one of those delightful details that makes the Waite-Smith deck so fascinating.

So What Does It Mean?

The Victorian occultists didn’t deny the existence of luck.

Quite the opposite.

They believed that cycles of fortune were simply one of the natural laws of life.

Just as the tides rise and fall…

Just as the moon waxes and wanes…

Just as the seasons endlessly change…

Human beings move through cycles of prosperity and hardship.

The wheel turns.

It always has.

It always will.

The real question isn’t whether we can stop the wheel.

We can’t.

The question is whether we have to ride every revolution with it.

The four fixed signs may be offering an answer.

Unlike the creatures clinging to the wheel itself, they remain calm, steady, and detached. They aren’t fighting the motion below them. They’re quietly studying. Learning. Watching.

In other words, they’ve found a place that doesn’t move.

That’s the deeper lesson of the card.

We may not be able to control the cycles of fortune, but we can learn not to be controlled by them.

When life enters one of those stretches where everything seems to go wrong, we can remember:

This, too, shall pass.

Oddly enough, the more fiercely we struggle against a season of bad luck, the more we become entangled in it.

Acceptance isn’t surrender.

It’s stability.

The Wheel of Fortune reminds us that while the wheel keeps turning, we don’t always have to spin with it.

Perhaps that’s the greatest stroke of luck of all.

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The Lovers and Falling in Love with Love

The archetypal power of love in the human heart.

When most people look at The Lovers card, their attention goes immediately to the man and woman.

But perhaps they’re not the real subject of the card.

Perhaps the real story is the angel.

Are You in Love with Your Lover… or in Love with Love?

It’s a curious question.

When we fall in love, what is it that actually transforms us? Is it another human being? Or is it the mysterious experience that awakens within us?

We’ve all known that feeling.

You meet someone. Conversation becomes effortless. Ordinary days suddenly seem enchanted. Music sounds richer. Food tastes better. Even standing in line at the grocery store doesn’t seem quite so terrible.

The world hasn’t changed.

You have.

Love has reorganized your perception.

And what’s fascinating is that this transformation often begins long before we really know the other person.

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The Golden Aura

Relationships don’t always last.

Some become lifelong partnerships. Others end in disappointment, heartbreak, or betrayal.

Yet even after the relationship is over—even after anger has replaced affection—we often remember those first weeks or months with remarkable clarity.

We remember the golden feeling.

The sense that life itself had become brighter.

Which raises an interesting possibility.

Perhaps what we miss isn’t only the person.

Perhaps we miss the state of consciousness that love awakened within us.

The Angel in the Card

This is why I find the angel in this illustration so compelling.

The two human figures occupy the foreground, but towering above them is a radiant angel, pouring light over the entire scene.

The humans may tell the personal story.

The angel tells the archetypal one.

In Jungian psychology, an archetype is a universal pattern that lives within the human psyche. Love is certainly one of those patterns. Whenever it awakens, it changes the way we see ourselves and the world around us.

Suddenly, things that once seemed important lose their urgency.

Small gestures—a smile, a touch, a glance across a room—become deeply meaningful.

Love rearranges our priorities almost overnight.

The Human as the Vehicle

Ram Dass once spoke about grief in a way that has stayed with me.

He suggested that when someone we love dies, leaves us, or simply disappears from our lives, it feels as though our heart has been torn out.

Why?

Because we mistake the person for the love.

His suggestion was that the beloved is the vehicle through which we experience that profound state of love. When the vehicle disappears, it feels as though love itself has vanished.

Whether or not you agree with his spiritual conclusions, the psychological insight is worth considering.

Perhaps another person doesn’t create love inside us.

Perhaps they awaken something that was already there.

Which Comes First?

It’s impossible to know.

Does falling in love activate the archetype of love?

Or does the archetype become active first, allowing us to fall in love with someone we might otherwise never have noticed?

Most of us have looked back at an old relationship and wondered:

“What in the world did I ever see in that person?”

Perhaps the answer isn’t that we were blind.

Perhaps, for a brief time, we were seeing through the eyes of love itself.

Bringing the Angel Home

The Lovers card offers a beautiful challenge.

Instead of waiting for another person to bring love into our lives, what if we learned to cultivate that quality ourselves?

Not necessarily romantic love.

Simply love.

Loving your home.

Loving your work.

Loving the people you meet.

Being a little slower to judge and a little quicker to help.

Offering compassion to strangers—and to yourself.

Whether you see love as divine energy, a psychological archetype, or simply one of humanity’s greatest capacities, the effect is remarkably similar.

Life becomes brighter.

And perhaps that is the true lesson of The Lovers.

The couple may come and go.

But when love itself finds a permanent home in your heart, no one can take it away.