The Star and Shining Bright in Our Lives

The Star Card as the reborn self.

To paraphrase a wonderful movie:

“What does a star do? It shines.”

And that is precisely what The Star in the Tarot portrays: our ability to shine our light into the world around us.

Through a Jungian lens, the Tarot can be read as a visual map of individuation—the lifelong process of bringing the conscious and unconscious parts of ourselves into a more complete and integrated whole.

The Star represents an important moment in that journey. Something inside us has come together. Mind, spirit, emotion, and instinct are no longer fighting one another quite so fiercely. We have begun to understand who we are.

And now we’re ready to share it.

The Star isn’t searching for her light. She is the light.

THE STAR AND THE TOWER

The Star appears immediately after The Tower. There is no coincidence in that sequence.

As we recently discussed, The Tower can depict not merely the destruction of circumstances in our outer world, but the collapse of the psychological structures we have built around ourselves.

The Tower takes everything false, everything unsustainable, everything inauthentic—and burns it right to the ground.

But inherent in that destruction is the possibility of rebirth. When there is nothing left, we have to start over. And when we start over, we have the opportunity to rebuild our lives on something more authentic.

To quote the old Kris Kristofferson line made famous by Janis Joplin:

“Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose.”

That is precisely where The Star enters the story. The Tower has stripped away the false structure. The crown has fallen. The walls have collapsed. The old identity has been shattered.

And yet—we’re still here.

Perhaps for the first time, we are free to become something closer to our authentic self.

The Tower says: This is what you are not. The Star answers: Then let me show you what you are.

THE STAR AND THE HERMIT

Another way to understand The Star is to compare her with The Hermit, because in some respects they represent almost opposite energies.

Psychologically, The Hermit represents deliberate introversion. He steps away from the collective noise of society to enter the inner world alone. He is searching for something that cannot be found amid the chatter and expectations of everyone around him.

Visually, his heavy gray cloak creates a boundary between himself and the world. He stands alone on his snowy mountain peak, carrying only his staff and lantern. The lantern represents consciousness illuminating the darkness—the small light with which he explores the unknown territories within himself.

The Hermit isn’t simply alone.

He wants to be alone.

He isn’t trying to share something. He’s trying to find something.

The Star is different.

She has emerged from that inward journey. She stands naked beneath the stars, without armor, cloak, crown, fortress, or disguise. There is nothing separating her from the world around her.

She isn’t searching for another source of energy. She has become a source.

She pours her water—her energy, creativity, compassion, wisdom, and essential self—back into the world.

Some goes into the pool, the realm of emotion and the unconscious. Some goes onto the earth, nourishing ordinary life.

She isn’t hiding. She’s nourishing. And perhaps most importantly, she isn’t diminished by giving. Her vessels don’t seem to run dry.

That is one of the profound lessons of The Star: when what we give comes from the authentic self rather than from obligation, fear, or the desperate need for approval, sharing ourselves does not necessarily empty us.

Sometimes it makes us more fully ourselves.

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THE GUIDING STAR

Jung used the ancient term psychopomp for an archetypal figure that mediates between different realms of experience—particularly between consciousness and the unconscious.  The psychopomp is a guide who leads us from one realm into the next.

The Star can be understood as such a guide.  She is leading us from the destruction of The Tower into our own light.

But whatever psychological language we use, the message of The Star is remarkably simple.

We are meant to shine.

We are supposed to shine.

And for many people, that is much more difficult than it sounds.

Psychologist Brené Brown has described shame as the intensely painful experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love, belonging, and connection.

That belief can become one of the most powerful forces keeping us from fully participating in our own lives. We don’t show people what we’ve created because perhaps it isn’t good enough.

We don’t speak because perhaps what we have to say isn’t important.

We don’t pursue the thing we desperately want because perhaps we aren’t talented enough, attractive enough, intelligent enough, young enough, educated enough—or simply enough.

So we hide.

We become smaller. We cover ourselves in the Hermit’s cloak long after the period of solitude has served its purpose.

The Star has moved beyond that shame.

Look at her. She is completely exposed beneath an enormous night sky, yet there is nothing defensive about her.

She isn’t comparing herself with the other stars. She isn’t wondering whether Sirius is brighter. She isn’t asking whether someone else deserves to shine more than she does.

She simply shines.

And by doing so, she becomes a guide for everyone still standing in the darkness.

She seems to be saying: This is how you do it.

This is how you shine.

WHEN THE STAR SHOWS UP IN YOUR READING

When The Star appears in a reading, it often signals healing, renewal, authenticity, and the return of hope after a difficult period.

But I think its message goes considerably deeper than simply, “Things are going to get better.”

The Star asks you to stop hiding.

If you’ve recently experienced your own Tower—a loss, upheaval, disappointment, failure, or profound change—The Star suggests that the destruction may have cleared away something that was preventing you from becoming more completely yourself.

The question now is not simply: How do I get my old life back?

The better question may be: Who am I now that the old life is gone?

The Star can also appear when you have something that needs to be shared.

An idea. A talent. A piece of art. A book. A truth. A kindness.

A way of seeing the world that belongs uniquely to you.

You may still hear the old voice whispering that nobody wants it, that somebody else could do it better, or that you have no business putting yourself forward.

The Star says otherwise.

She doesn’t promise applause. She doesn’t promise success. She doesn’t even promise that everyone will understand what you have to offer.

She simply reminds you that your light cannot illuminate anything while you are hiding it.

So when The Star appears, ask yourself:

Where am I still making myself smaller than I need to be?

What part of myself am I finally ready to reveal?

What do I have that could nourish someone else?

And perhaps the most important question of all:

What would happen if I simply gave myself permission to shine?

Because what does a star do?

It shines.

The Devil and the Problem of Unconscious Choice

The Devil Card and the need for choice before morality.

One of the most frequently discussed details in the Rider-Waite-Smith Devil card is the chains.

The naked man and woman stand chained to the black pedestal beneath the Devil, but a closer look reveals something peculiar. Their hands are completely free, and the chains around their necks are so loose that either figure could simply lift the loop over his or her head and walk away.

That gives us one of the standard interpretations of The Devil: we are often imprisoned by things that we can walk away from if we choose to do it.

It’s a powerful interpretation, and one I’ve discussed before. (See my previous post The Devil Card and Freedom.) But it raises another question that may take us deeper into the card.

What if the people don’t know that they can take the chains off?

Why Don’t They Take Off the Chains?

When we look at the picture, knowing that the chains are loose, their behavior seems completely puzzling.

Why don’t they simply leave?

One answer might be that they just don’t want to.  They might actually be enjoying whatever’s keeping them in chains.  Maybe they like getting drunk.  Maybe they’re having a really hot secret affair with their next door neighbor and it feels mighty fine.  Maybe they like being an addict.

But when we look carefully at the card, it doesn’t look like they’re making any kind of conscious decision at all.

Look at them.

They aren’t struggling against their chains.

They aren’t examining them.

They aren’t looking toward one another for help.

Most strikingly, neither of them is looking at the Devil.

There is an enormous, gigantic, scary, horny creature looming immediately behind them, and they seem almost completely unaware of his presence.

The man is even more remarkable. The Devil holds a flaming torch downward toward him, and the man’s tail has caught fire.

He doesn’t seem to notice.  Really?  Wouldn’t you notice it if your tail caught fire?  I know I would.

But maybe we’ve been asking the wrong question.

Instead of asking “Why don’t they choose to remove the chains?” perhaps we should be asking:

“Do they realize they’re wearing chains at all?”

Do they even realize that they’re slaves?

The Devil We Don’t See

This gives us a very different way of understanding the card.

The Devil represents something we haven’t yet seen.

We could make a serious case for the idea that most of us don’t make conscious choices about our lives.  Oh, we think we do and we like to brag about how well informed we are, but do we really?

There are, of course, marvelous exceptions but most of us are born in a particular rut and stay in that rut for most of our lives.  If we were born into a Christian family, we’ll probably stay Christians.  If our parents always voted Republican, we’ll probably vote Republican.  If we were born middle class, we’ll probably die middle class.  

We can say the same thing about our habitual ways of thinking.  If our parents were cynics and viewed the world skeptically, we will, too.  If our parents were depressive or angry, we’ll probably be depressed or angry, too.  If we were raised in a racist family, we’ll most likely be racist adults.

By the time we reach adolescence, we are thoroughly programmed little robots.  We may get a nose ring or a tattoo and call it rebellion, but soon enough we return to the rut we were born in.

And all the while, WE HAVE NO IDEA that we’re not making our own choices.  In fact, a part of the programming we receive is that we have freedom of choice when we really don’t.

It might be a belief inherited from our parents. It might be an assumption about money, sexuality, success, relationships, gender, class, religion or respectability. It might be a fear acquired in childhood. It might simply be a habit repeated for so many years that we’ve forgotten there was ever another way of behaving.

We don’t say, “I have chosen this.”

We say, “That’s just the way things are.”

And that may be one of the most powerful chains of all.

Morality Requires Choice

This brings us to perhaps the most provocative aspect of The Devil.

We traditionally associate the Devil with immorality. But what if the deeper problem depicted by the card is not immoral choice at all?

What if it is the absence of conscious choice?

In Jung and Tarot: An Archetypal Journey, Sallie Nichols writes:

“Without freedom to choose, there can be no true morality. The fact is that most of us today have more free choice than we realize; but many, still unconsciously imprisoned within cultural mores, refuse to accept the responsibility for moral choice.”

That distinction is crucial.

Morality isn’t simply obedience to a collection of rules. Genuine morality requires the ability to recognize alternatives, understand consequences, and then choose among them.

If I behave in a particular way merely because “that’s what people do,” I haven’t necessarily made a moral decision.

If I follow a religious commandment without ever examining it, I may be obedient—but obedience and morality aren’t the same thing.

If I repeat the prejudices of my culture because I’ve never recognized them as prejudices, I haven’t consciously decided that they are right.

And if I hurt another person while blindly acting out an unconscious fear or compulsion, the consequences remain real even though I may never have consciously intended them.

Consciousness creates the possibility of moral choice.

That’s where The Devil becomes considerably more complicated than a card about temptation or sin.

The people beneath him may not be wicked.

They may simply be asleep.

The First Act of Freedom Is Seeing the Chain

That brings us back to the apparent paradox at the center of the picture.

The couple are free. And they aren’t free.

Objectively, nothing prevents them from lifting those chains from their necks. Subjectively, however, they may have no idea that such a possibility exists.

Freedom therefore requires something before choice. It requires awareness.

We have to see the chain. We have to recognize the Devil standing behind us.

We may even have to notice that our tail is on fire.

Only then can we decide what we’re going to do about it.

Perhaps that is why The Devil occupies such an important place in the Major Arcana. He confronts us not simply with our appetites or our bad behavior, but with the uncomfortable possibility that forces we haven’t recognized may be making some of our choices for us.

The moment we see those forces clearly, something changes. We may still choose to remain exactly where we are.  But now it really is a choice.

What The Devil Means in a Reading

When The Devil appears in a reading, then, the question may not simply be “What has you trapped?”

A more useful question might be:

“What are you taking for granted that you have never consciously chosen?”

Look for the invisible assumption behind the situation. A relationship pattern, an inherited belief, a fear, a social expectation, a desire, an old family rule, or simply the conviction that “I don’t have any other choice.”

The card doesn’t necessarily tell you to break the chain.

It asks you first to see it.

Because once the chain becomes visible, you can finally decide whether to keep wearing it.

The Lovers and Falling in Love with Love

The archetypal power of love in the human heart.

When most people look at The Lovers card, their attention goes immediately to the man and woman.

But perhaps they’re not the real subject of the card.

Perhaps the real story is the angel.

Are You in Love with Your Lover… or in Love with Love?

It’s a curious question.

When we fall in love, what is it that actually transforms us? Is it another human being? Or is it the mysterious experience that awakens within us?

We’ve all known that feeling.

You meet someone. Conversation becomes effortless. Ordinary days suddenly seem enchanted. Music sounds richer. Food tastes better. Even standing in line at the grocery store doesn’t seem quite so terrible.

The world hasn’t changed.

You have.

Love has reorganized your perception.

And what’s fascinating is that this transformation often begins long before we really know the other person.

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 The Golden Aura

Relationships don’t always last.

Some become lifelong partnerships. Others end in disappointment, heartbreak, or betrayal.

Yet even after the relationship is over—even after anger has replaced affection—we often remember those first weeks or months with remarkable clarity.

We remember the golden feeling.

The sense that life itself had become brighter.

Which raises an interesting possibility.

Perhaps what we miss isn’t only the person.

Perhaps we miss the state of consciousness that love awakened within us.

The Angel in the Card

This is why I find the angel in this illustration so compelling.

The two human figures occupy the foreground, but towering above them is a radiant angel, pouring light over the entire scene.

The humans may tell the personal story.

The angel tells the archetypal one.

In Jungian psychology, an archetype is a universal pattern that lives within the human psyche. Love is certainly one of those patterns. Whenever it awakens, it changes the way we see ourselves and the world around us.

Suddenly, things that once seemed important lose their urgency.

Small gestures—a smile, a touch, a glance across a room—become deeply meaningful.

Love rearranges our priorities almost overnight.

 The Human as the Vehicle

Ram Dass once spoke about grief in a way that has stayed with me.

He suggested that when someone we love dies, leaves us, or simply disappears from our lives, it feels as though our heart has been torn out.

Why?

Because we mistake the person for the love.

His suggestion was that the beloved is the vehicle through which we experience that profound state of love. When the vehicle disappears, it feels as though love itself has vanished.

Whether or not you agree with his spiritual conclusions, the psychological insight is worth considering.

Perhaps another person doesn’t create love inside us.

Perhaps they awaken something that was already there.

 Which Comes First?

It’s impossible to know.

Does falling in love activate the archetype of love?

Or does the archetype become active first, allowing us to fall in love with someone we might otherwise never have noticed?

Most of us have looked back at an old relationship and wondered:

“What in the world did I ever see in that person?”

Perhaps the answer isn’t that we were blind.

Perhaps, for a brief time, we were seeing through the eyes of love itself.

 Bringing the Angel Home

The Lovers card offers a beautiful challenge.

Instead of waiting for another person to bring love into our lives, what if we learned to cultivate that quality ourselves?

Not necessarily romantic love.

Simply love.

Loving your home.

Loving your work.

Loving the people you meet.

Being a little slower to judge and a little quicker to help.

Offering compassion to strangers—and to yourself.

Whether you see love as divine energy, a psychological archetype, or simply one of humanity’s greatest capacities, the effect is remarkably similar.

Life becomes brighter.

And perhaps that is the true lesson of The Lovers.

The couple may come and go.

But when love itself finds a permanent home in your heart, no one can take it away.

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The Magician and Learning to Hide Your Magic

Magic might exist best in silence.

The internet has made the world’s spiritual traditions available to anyone with a curious mind. In the space of an afternoon you can watch videos on Tarot, meditation, astrology, Wicca, Hermetic philosophy, or ancient shamanic practices.

That kind of openness creates an illusion that every spiritual subject is now safe to discuss openly.

Unfortunately, that isn’t always true.

The Price of Being Different

The word eccentric simply means “off center.”

Imagine society as a great circle. Most people live comfortably near the middle, sharing many of the same assumptions about life, religion, and reality. They may disagree about politics, music, or sports, but the foundation of their worldview is remarkably similar.

A spiritual journey often carries us away from that center.

We begin asking unusual questions. We become interested in synchronicity, Tarot, meditation, dreams, symbols, or ancient traditions. We may even come to believe in things that many people dismiss without a second thought.

Naturally, we’re excited.

Whenever we discover something meaningful, our first instinct is to share it with the people we love.

And that can be a grave mistake.

The people listening may smile politely while privately wondering whether we’ve lost our grip on reality. Sometimes the judgment remains unspoken. 

Occasionally it comes back with surprising force from people we trusted completely and that can feel especially devastating.

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Protecting Young Beliefs

This is especially important when you’re just beginning your spiritual exploration.

New beliefs are like tender seedlings pushing through the soil. They aren’t yet strong enough to withstand harsh weather.

They need time.

They need experience.

Most of all, they need protection.

Sharing those fragile discoveries with someone who has already decided they’re nonsense is like inviting someone to stomp through your garden wearing heavy boots.

The damage isn’t necessarily that they change your mind.

The damage is that they plant seeds of doubt before your own understanding has had time to mature.

History Is Shorter Than You Think

It’s easy to assume that hostility toward unconventional spiritual practices belongs to the distant past.

We remember the witch trials and the Inquisition, when innocent people were imprisoned, tortured, or killed because they were suspected of practicing forbidden arts.

Yet fear of the occult has appeared much more recently.

During the Satanic Panic of the 1980s, innocent people were accused of bizarre crimes involving imagined occult rituals. The most famous example was the McMartin Preschool case in California, where extraordinary accusations dominated headlines despite the complete lack of supporting evidence. 

Witnesses testified that Virginia McMartin, who ran a day care center for preschoolers in Manhattan Beach was, “leading children into secret underground tunnels where they dressed up as witches and flew around in the air.  Other parents made similarly shocking allegations about McMartin Preschool, accusing the employees of cannibalism, blood-drinking and infant sacrifice.”

Only 40 years ago, right here in the United States, a county attorney indicted a woman for dressing up like a witch and flying around the air.

Let that sink in.

Why the Magician Keeps Silent

There is an interesting clue in the very word,  “occult.”

It simply means, “hidden.”

We usually think of hidden knowledge—teachings that are not widely known—but perhaps there is another lesson as well.

Some things are best kept private, even from people we thought we could trust.

There is quiet wisdom in that.

Not every insight needs to become a public discussion.

Not every ritual needs an audience.

Not every spiritual experience needs to be explained.

Sometimes the greatest magic grows best in silence.

The greatest secrets of Western Occultism were passed down from adept to student, always hidden from the prying eyes of the crowds, the priests, and the judges.  That’s how they survived through the many years of the Dark Ages.  Perhaps that’s how they’ll survive again.

That is one of The Magician’s deepest lessons—not simply learning how to work with unseen forces, but learning when to keep them unseen.

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Four Paths to Becoming the Hermit

An exploration of being alone in the world.

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Of all the figures in the Tarot, none stands more completely alone than The Hermit.

Unlike the Fool, the Magician, or the Emperor, the Hermit has intentionally stepped away from the crowd. He has withdrawn from unnecessary human contact, choosing solitude over society.

That seems almost contrary to human nature.

Aristotle observed that anyone who has no need of society must be either a god or a beast. Yet the Hermit is neither. He is simply a human being who has walked a very unusual road.

So how does someone become the Hermit?

1. The Wounded Hermit

For many people, the journey begins with pain.

They reached out sincerely. They loved, trusted, and tried to belong. Again and again they were hurt, rejected, or misunderstood.

Eventually they withdraw—not because they hate people, but because they need to protect what remains of their heart.

For some, this is the first step toward becoming the Hermit.

2. The Disappointed Hermit

Others are not driven away by wounds but by disillusionment.

They have done everything society promised would bring fulfillment. They built careers, earned money, fell in love, married, raised families, or achieved success.

Yet something still feels empty.

Status, romance, wealth, and recognition eventually turn to dust, leaving them quietly asking:

“Is this really all there is?”

3. The Called Hermit

Sometimes the first two experiences awaken something deeper.

After enough disappointment, a person begins to long for truth rather than comfort. They become convinced that life must contain something more profound than endless striving.

This is where the spiritual search begins.

The Hermit is no longer running away from the world.

He is walking toward wisdom.

4. The Natural Hermit

Some people simply possess the temperament for solitude.

Introverts often discover that being alone restores rather than depletes them. What began as an escape from pain gradually becomes a place of peace.

They don’t merely tolerate solitude.

They flourish there.

For these people, being alone feels less like isolation and more like coming home.

The Hermit’s True Gift

For some, the Hermit is only a season of life—a place of healing before they return to the world.

For others, it becomes a lifelong calling.

They gradually realize they never truly fit the expectations of the culture around them. Solitude begins as medicine but eventually becomes as necessary as breathing.

The Hermit archetype doesn’t create that feeling of being different.

It simply shines a lantern on a truth that has always been there.

Sometimes the greatest journey isn’t learning how to belong to the crowd.

Sometimes it’s discovering who you become when the crowd is no longer needed.

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The Happiness Compass: What If Joy Is Trying to Tell You Something?

Exploring the idea that happiness is a compass that points us in the right direction.

We’ve all heard the old saying from the 1960s:

“If it feels good, do it.”

Unfortunately, our culture often teaches the exact opposite.

Work a job you hate because it’s practical.

Stay in a relationship that’s gone stale because it’s your duty.

Ignore your dreams because they’re unrealistic.

Somewhere along the way, many of us begin wearing our unhappiness like a badge of honor, as though misery proves we’re responsible adults.

But what if we’ve misunderstood happiness?

What if it isn’t a luxury?

What if it’s a compass?

Happiness Isn’t Random

One of the central ideas in my book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, is that happiness isn’t merely an emotion that comes and goes.

It’s directional.

It points.

When we’re moving toward the life we’re meant to live, something inside us quietly says:

“Yes…this is the way.”

Likewise, when we drift away from our authentic nature, life begins to feel heavy, flat, and strangely empty.

Our emotions aren’t simply fluctuations. They’re messages that point us in the right direction.

The Simplest Question

Perhaps the most radical question we can ask ourselves isn’t:

“How much money am I making?”

Or…

“What will other people think?”

It’s simply this:

Am I happy here?

If the honest answer is no, don’t treat it as a failure. Treat it as information.

Your inner compass is trying to get your attention.

Isn’t That Just Hedonism?

Whenever people talk about following happiness, someone inevitably objects:

“That sounds selfish.”

Or…

“Life isn’t supposed to be fun all the time.”

I agree. This isn’t about chasing pleasure.

There’s a profound difference between pleasure and fulfillment.

Pleasure asks:

“What feels good right now?”

Fulfillment asks:

“What kind of joy helps me become more fully myself?”

Real happiness isn’t the endless pursuit of dopamine. It’s the quiet satisfaction that comes from living in harmony with your deepest nature.

Happiness Is a Side Effect of Truth

One of the biggest misconceptions in our culture is that happiness comes from accumulating enough “stuff.”

More money.

A bigger house.

A nicer car.

More followers.

Those things may be enjoyable. But they’re not necessarily meaningful.

Real happiness comes from something much deeper.

It appears when we’re living with integrity.

When our actions reflect who we really are.

When we’re doing the work we came here to do—even if that work is difficult.

Happiness isn’t the goal.

It’s the glow that appears when we’re moving in the right direction.

Entering the Flow

Psychologists call it flow.

The Taoists simply speak of being in harmony with the Tao.

Athletes call it being in the zone.

Whatever name we give it, most of us have experienced those rare moments when intention and action become one.  When life seems to go perfectly.

Time disappears.

Energy rises.

Life feels strangely enchanted.

Synchronicities seem to increase.

Everything flows naturally.

To me, this is the Happiness Compass operating at full strength. The needle of the compass isn’t spinning in circles anymore – it’s pointing solidly in one direction.

Why We Lose Our Way

The tragedy is that most of us weren’t taught to trust this inner guidance.

We were taught to obey.

To fit in. To be practical. To put duty ahead of authenticity.

Eventually the compass is still there…

But it’s buried beneath expectations, obligations, financial worries, and the opinions of other people.

Eventually, we may not even remember what genuine happiness feels like, because we’ve forgotten who we truly are.

How the Tarot Can Help

This is one of the reasons I love working with the Tarot.

The cards don’t tell us who we’re supposed to become. They remind us who we already are. They gently reveal where we’ve ignored our intuition, overridden our happiness, or wandered away from our authentic path.

The cards are about helping us realign with ourselves and answer that basic question:  Am I happy? If the answer is no, they tell us why.

Perhaps happiness isn’t something we have to chase.  Perhaps it’s simply something that we need to remember.

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Adapted from Chapter Six of my new book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment: Using the Cards to Remember Who You Are, which explores how the Tarot can become a practical compass for discovering your authentic path and living with greater joy, purpose, and synchronicity.



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What If Your Destiny Isn’t to Become Rich?

Exploring the idea that we’re not just here to get rich.

Spend a few minutes browsing YouTube or social media and you’ll quickly discover that almost everyone seems to know your destiny.

Apparently, you’re supposed to become wealthy.

Manifest abundance.

Drive the right car.

Live in the right house.

Travel the world.

And, of course, achieve financial freedom.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with any of those goals. The question is whether they’re everyone’s destiny.

I’m not convinced they are.

The Feeling That Something Is Missing

Most of us have experienced a quiet feeling that we’re here for some larger purpose.

Even when life is going reasonably well, there can be a sense that something remains unfinished.

It’s as though we’re being gently called toward a life that is more authentic, more meaningful, and somehow more fully our own.

But what exactly is that calling? Some people say it’s destiny.

Two Ways of Looking at Destiny

Over the years, I’ve noticed that most spiritual teachings seem to fall into one of two broad models.

The first is what I call the Earth School Model.

According to this view, we reincarnate again and again in order to learn lessons, overcome limitations, and gradually evolve spiritually.

Life is a classroom.

Every challenge is part of the curriculum.

The second is what I call the Actualization Model.

Instead of asking, “What lessons am I here to learn?” it asks:

“Who am I here to become?”

This idea reminds me of psychologist Abraham Maslow’s famous hierarchy of needs.

At the very top of his pyramid wasn’t wealth.

It wasn’t fame.

It wasn’t status.

It was self-actualization—becoming the fullest expression of your authentic self.

I find that idea deeply compelling.

The Prosperity Trap

Somewhere during the twentieth century, something interesting happened.

The New Thought movement, with its emphasis on affirmations, visualization, and the creative power of the mind, gradually merged with American ideas about success and capitalism.

Before long, spiritual growth and financial success became almost interchangeable.

Manifestation came to mean one thing:

More money.

Now, don’t misunderstand me.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with financial security.

Most of us would welcome a little more of it.

But if we believe that every soul reincarnated primarily to become rich, we end up with a rather curious picture of human existence. Can we really imagine that we’ve come back again and again because we should all be more like Elon Musk?

Imagine a shepherd whose deepest fulfillment comes from tending goats in the mountains.

Or a teacher whose greatest joy is helping children learn to read.

Or an artist who creates beauty that quietly changes people’s lives.

Would we really say that these people have somehow missed their destiny because they didn’t become millionaires?

I don’t think so.

Their success may have very little to do with the size of their bank account.

Listening for Your Own Call

One of the central ideas in my book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, is that destiny isn’t something someone else can define for you.

It isn’t found in a bestselling seminar or a motivational slogan.

It arises from discovering your own authentic nature.

For one person, that path may indeed involve building a successful business.

For another, it may involve raising a family, creating art, caring for others, teaching, healing, or living a quiet life close to nature.

The Tarot doesn’t ask us to pursue someone else’s dream.

It asks us to discover our own.

Perhaps the real purpose of life isn’t to become rich.

Perhaps it’s to become ourselves.

And in the end, that may be the greatest success of all.

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Finding Ourselves on the Map

Using the Tarot to Predict the Present

Why One-Size-Fits-All Spirituality Doesn’t Work

If you’ve spent any time in the self-help world, you’ve probably noticed a recurring theme:

Someone discovers a technique that changes their life.

Then they write a book, launch a podcast, create an online course, and explain why everyone else should do exactly the same thing.

The assumption is simple:

If it worked for me, it should work for everyone.

Unfortunately, human beings don’t work that way.

When it comes to following a spiritual path, one size does not fit all.

The Jewel Hidden Beneath the Rock

Buddhist teachers sometimes use a beautiful metaphor.

They tell us that each of us possesses a precious jewel hidden beneath a layer of gray rock.

That jewel is our true nature.

Our wisdom.

Our compassion.

Our spiritual essence.

The goal of the spiritual path isn’t to create the jewel. It’s already there.

The goal is to uncover it.

This is an important distinction.

Many of us approach spirituality as though we’re trying to become something we are not. We’re trying to become enlightened, worthy, lovable, wise, or whole. But what if our deeper nature already possesses those qualities?

What if awakening isn’t something that gets added to us?

What if it’s something that gets revealed?

Some Rocks Are Thicker Than Others

Of course, if life were that simple, we’d all be enlightened by Tuesday.

The challenge is that the jewel is often buried beneath layers of conditioning.

Those layers can include:

  • Fear
  • Trauma
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Cultural conditioning
  • Prejudice
  • Old wounds
  • False ideas about who we are

Some people arrive carrying a little rock.

Others arrive carrying a boulder.

But we’re all engaged in the same process. We’re all uncovering the same jewel.

Don’t Compare Your Journey

One of my favorite passages from the Desiderata reminds us:

“If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

That’s particularly true on the spiritual path.

Some people seem naturally compassionate. Some seem deeply intuitive. Others appear to have spent decades doing inner work.

Meanwhile, some of us are just figuring out which end of the shovel to hold.

And that’s okay.

The important thing is to remember that we’re all on the same continuum.

Some people have uncovered more of the jewel.

Some are just beginning.

Neither position makes anyone better or worse.

The Spiritual GPS

This brings me to one of my favorite metaphors, borrowed from Mike Dooley.

He compares the spiritual journey to a GPS.

It’s a wonderful image.

Suppose you want to drive from Phoenix to Los Angeles.

The GPS can absolutely help you get there.

But first it needs one crucial piece of information:

Where are you now?

Without that information, the GPS is useless. It cannot guide you from Phoenix to Los Angeles if it doesn’t know you’re in Phoenix.

The same thing is true spiritually.

Before we can determine where we’re going, we need to understand where we are.

And that’s precisely where many spiritual systems fall apart.

They offer directions without first helping us identify our current location.

The Real Genius of the Tarot

Most people think the Tarot’s greatest strength is predicting the future.

I disagree.

I believe the real genius of the Tarot lies in its ability to describe the present.

A good Tarot reading reveals:

  • Where you are right now
  • What forces are influencing you
  • What patterns are helping you
  • What patterns are holding you back
  • What lessons are trying to emerge

In other words, it functions as a spiritual GPS.

Before it tells you where you’re headed, it tells you where you’re standing.

And that’s incredibly valuable information.

Because once you know where you are, the next step becomes much easier to see.

The Paradox of Destiny

One of the central ideas in Tarot and the Art of Alignment is that destiny is often misunderstood.

Most people imagine destiny as something waiting for them somewhere in the future.

A distant goal.

A future achievement.

A place they haven’t reached yet.

But what if destiny isn’t waiting out there somewhere?

What if it’s already here?

What if the path is beneath your feet right now?

The future emerges from the interaction between the present and the past.

Every choice.

Every belief.

Every action.

Every moment.

The Tarot helps us see those forces at work.

It shows us how the energies of the present moment are combining to create the next moment.

In that sense, the cards don’t simply predict the future.

They reveal the path.

Finding Your Own Way

This is why I don’t believe there is a single spiritual method that works for everyone.

Different people need different tools.

Different lessons.

Different experiences.

The first step is not finding the perfect technique.

The first step is discovering where you are.

Once you know that, the path forward becomes much easier to navigate.

Like any GPS, the Tarot begins with a simple question:

“You are here.”

And from that point, the journey can begin.

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Navigating the Ocean of Self-Help

Using the Tarot to become your own guru.

Why We Don’t Need Another Guru

The Buddha once taught that certain conditions are necessary for enlightenment:

  • Being born human
  • The appearance of a Buddha or enlightened teacher
  • A way for those teachings to reach human beings
  • People capable of understanding and applying the teachings

Today, I’d like to focus on that third point: How do the teachings reach us?

And perhaps more importantly:

How do we know which teachings are right for us?

From Ancient Villages to Information Overload

In the Buddha’s day, getting a spiritual message out into the world was no small task.

There were no emails, podcasts, YouTube channels, online courses, or social media platforms.

The Buddha spent roughly forty-five years walking from village to village, teaching anyone who was willing to listen. Basically, walking up to strangers and saying, “Hey, I’ve got an idea . . .”

Imagine that.

No marketing department. No sales funnel. No premium membership package.

Just a teacher sharing what he had discovered.

Fast forward twenty-five centuries and we’ve arrived at the opposite problem.

When I wake up in the morning, my inbox is usually full of messages promising to transform my life, align my energy, unlock hidden potential, activate forgotten abilities, and teach me the secret to happiness, wealth, abundance, success, enlightenment, or all of the above.

The challenge is no longer finding information.

The challenge is sorting through it.

Never before in human history have so many spiritual teachings, philosophies, techniques, and self-help systems been available to so many people.

And yet many of us remain confused about what actually works.

The Billion-Dollar Search for Happiness

The self-help industry generates tens of billions of dollars each year.

That’s a big chunk of enlightenment.

Most programs follow a familiar pattern:

  • I have achieved success.
  • You have not.
  • I have a special technique, secret, or system.
  • Pay me, and I’ll teach it to you.

To be fair, some of these teachers are sincere and genuinely helpful.

Many people have benefited from books, courses, seminars, and retreats.

But there is also a tendency to assume that one technique should work for everyone.

What if that assumption is wrong? What if there is no universal formula? What if different people require different paths?

Satisfaction Not Guaranteed

One thing I’ve noticed over the years is that self-help programs rarely come with guarantees.

Suppose someone is struggling financially and spends thousands of dollars attending an exclusive retreat in Costa Rica. They spend a week sipping organic hot chocolate, munching down tofu rice cakes, and opening their heart chakra.

At the end of the experience, they may feel inspired, motivated, and hopeful. But what if nothing really changed, other than they have a better tan and a lighter wallet?

What if their life remains exactly the same six months later?

The explanation is often that they didn’t practice enough, believe enough, surrender enough, visualize enough, or raise their vibration enough.

In other words, if MY method doesn’t work, it’s YOUR fault.

Let’s face it: if one teacher could make everyone happy, rich and successful, we’d all be going to that teacher and we’d all be rich.

Instead, the emails continue to pile up in our in-boxes.

Where the Tarot Is Different

This is where my book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, takes a different arapproach.

The central idea is surprisingly simple:

The wisdom we seek is not somewhere outside of us.

It is already within us.

The challenge is learning how to access it.

The Tarot provides a remarkably effective way to do exactly that.

Rather than telling us what to think, the cards help us listen.

Rather than asking us to surrender our authority to a teacher, they encourage us to develop trust in our own inner knowing.

Rather than offering one answer for everyone, they reveal the unique lessons, challenges, and opportunities present in each individual’s life.

In this model, the Tarot is not a fortune-telling device.

It is a mirror.

A guide.

A conversation with the deeper parts of ourselves.

Your Own Inner Teacher

One of the things I appreciate most about the Tarot is its simplicity.

A Tarot deck costs roughly twenty-five to thirty bucks.

Once you have it, the conversation can begin.

There are no monthly subscription fees. No expensive retreats. No advanced certification programs. No endless upselling.

Just you, the cards, and the wisdom waiting beneath the noise of everyday life.

The goal is not to find another guru.

The goal is to discover the teacher that has been quietly waiting within you all along.

And in my experience, the Tarot is one of the most powerful keys to that door.

Why Your Visualizations Aren’t Working (And How the Tarot Can Help)

Using the Tarot to boost your visualizations and manifestations.

One of the strangest things about visualization and manifestation is that almost everyone who practices it has seen it work at least once.

A check arrives unexpectedly in the mail.

A new opportunity appears out of nowhere.

A problem that seemed impossible to solve suddenly resolves itself.

Most of us who have explored manifestation have had moments like that. The experience is so striking that we walk away convinced that there really is something to it.

The problem is that it often seems wildly inconsistent.

It’s as if we were handed a magic wand that only works on Tuesdays.

Sometimes it works beautifully.

Sometimes nothing happens at all.

So what’s going on?

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THE PROBLEM MAY NOT BE THE UNIVERSE

Most manifestation teachings assume that if something isn’t showing up in our lives, we simply aren’t visualizing hard enough, affirming often enough, or maintaining a high enough vibration.

Sometimes that’s true.

But sometimes the problem lies somewhere else entirely.

Sometimes we’re trying to manifest something that we don’t actually want.

That sounds strange, but think about it for a moment.

We’re constantly being told what we should want.

More money.

A bigger house.

A more prestigious career.

A newer car.

A better relationship.

Society hands us a ready-made list of desires and then encourages us to spend our lives pursuing them.

But what if those desires aren’t really ours?

Suppose your deepest dream is to live a quiet, peaceful life creating art, writing books, tending a garden, or herding goats in the mountains.

Trying to manifest a million-dollar corporate empire might actually move you farther away from what you truly want.

One part of you is saying:

“I want more money.”

Another part is saying:

“I want simplicity, freedom, and peace.”

The messages conflict.

And when they conflict, the energy behind them weakens.

THE HIDDEN VOICE OF THE SUBCONSCIOUS

There’s another reason manifestation sometimes fails.

Many of our deepest beliefs operate below conscious awareness.

We may consciously desire wealth while secretly believing that wealthy people are selfish or corrupt. So why would we want to be one?

We may desire a loving relationship while carrying a deep conviction that we are unworthy of love.

We may want success while simultaneously fearing attention, criticism, or failure.

In those situations, our conscious intentions and our subconscious beliefs are pulling in opposite directions.

No amount of affirmations can completely overcome a belief that remains hidden and unexamined.

THE TEN PERCENT PRINCIPLE

One idea that has always fascinated me is what I call the Ten Percent Principle.

Rather than focusing on the times manifestation didn’t work, focus on the times it did.

If your visualization works only ten percent of the time, that’s still astonishing.

That’s magic.

That’s making something appear out of nothing, simply using the power of your mind and heart.

So how do we increase that success rate from 10% to 50%?  How do we start to live the magic that we know is there?

HOW THE TAROT CAN HELP

This is where the Tarot becomes so valuable.

Most manifestation techniques begin with a conscious desire.

“I want more money.”

“I want a new relationship.”

“I want a better job.”

The Tarot approaches the problem from the opposite direction.

Because Tarot communicates through symbols, images, and archetypes, it speaks directly to the subconscious mind. It bypasses many of the stories, assumptions, and social programming that shape our everyday thinking.

The cards often reveal things we weren’t expecting to hear.

Sometimes they show us hidden fears.

Sometimes they reveal limiting beliefs.

And sometimes they show us that the thing we’re trying to manifest isn’t what we really want at all.

The Tarot doesn’t simply ask:

“What do you want?”

It asks:

“What does your soul want?”

THE SOUL SPREAD

One of the central ideas in my new book, Tarot and the Art of Alignment, is a reading method I call the Soul Spread.

Rather than focusing on future events, the Soul Spread is designed to uncover your deeper purpose, natural gifts, hidden challenges, and the path that brings the greatest sense of meaning and fulfillment.

In other words, it helps answer a question that most manifestation systems never ask:

“Am I trying to create a life that is actually mine?”

When our conscious goals and our deeper purpose come into alignment, something remarkable often happens.

The struggle begins to ease.

Synchronicities increase.

Opportunities appear.

The path feels more natural.

It’s as though life itself begins cooperating with us.

Perhaps the secret isn’t learning how to force the universe to give us what we want.

Perhaps the secret is discovering what we truly want in the first place.

And that’s a journey the Tarot is uniquely qualified to help us make.

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Tarot and the Art of Alignment is now available as both a Kindle edition and a downloadable PDF. If you’ve ever wondered why your visualizations seem inconsistent—or how to uncover the deeper desires beneath your conscious goals—the book offers a practical framework for using the Tarot as a tool for alignment, purpose, and personal transformation.